A Different Perspective
This is John Culbertson from MysticJohnCulbertson.com and this is your mini spiritual lesson for September 26th, 2018.
Our topic this week is forgiveness.
Today’s forgiveness tip: See the Story Differently
After you have told your story and deeply expressed and felt the emotions it is time to move on to step two. This is where things get hard.
Step two requires you to see the story differently. It requires you to look at the story not from your point of view, but from the perspective of the other party. To attempt to understand what was occurring from their perspective.
This is where resistance most often occurs. In our ego state we often times have a need to only see things from our victim state. We are labeled a victim or we label ourselves a victim. Our point of view is the only one that matters and thus we hold strongly to the past – never fully understanding that we have the ability to change the past just as much as the future.
How does one change the past? The past is only changeable when one is able to look at it through different eyes. The past can only change when we are capable of using a different lens to view it.
If you’ve been working with a partner in step one you may wish to continue to use that person in step two. Especially if you find you are deeply resistant to the idea of seeing things from a different perspective or point of view.
Please note, to see from a different perspective or point of view and to understand the events from that perspective is not to necessarily accept that what has occurred is okay. You don’t ever have to accept what has happened to you is okay or normal or even right. It is still possible to see through different eyes and understand from a different perspective those events and circumstances.
Ask your partner what they think the other person was thinking. Ask them why they think they would do such a thing. If you can talk to the person that you’re trying to forgive and ask them these questions and do so without adverse reactions that is fine too – but regardless, your job at this stage is to begin to see the events differently. That is, not from the space perspective and headspace that you’ve been seeing them from.
Be warned – this may bring up new emotions. It may bring up new inner conflicts. It may force you to deal with a part of yourself you’d rather avoid.
I would advise, once again, writing the same story that you wrote in step one again. This time in step two you will write it as though you were the person you’re working to forgive. Once again, writing in and of itself isn’t the answer. Being able to verbalize is the key. So read it to someone you can trust and who you can feel safe with.
Our prayer for this week is as follows:
I am forgiveness, now and always. I know God is forgiving and I know that God and I are one. I feel the power of forgiveness flowing through me and all around me. I feel myself going deeper and deeper into my emotions and accepting them as they are. I feel myself releasing old hurt, pain, and anger. I feel myself accepting that I am not wrong to feel the way I feel. I feel myself rejoicing in the fact I am overcoming any and all hurts from the past. I know forgiveness is for me and not for another. While I shall not allow myself to be hurt again, I can accept that my soul has grown through my life experiences and as such I’ve no need to hold onto the person, event, or circumstances that have damaged me. I release this now and as I do I say: So it is, so it is, so it is. I believe. So it is.