This is John Culbertson from MysticJohn Culbertson.com and this is your mini spiritual lesson for September 18th, 2018.
Our topic this week is emotions.
Today’s emotional tip: Releasing Anger
Of all the so-called negative emotions out there, anger is the one that tends to wreck the most havoc into both the life of the person that is angry as well as those whom that person is angry at.
Understand first that no emotion is truly negative. How we express that emotion can certainly be negative, but the emotion in and of itself is simply trying to alert us to or tell us something important about our life situation and circumstances.
In the case of anger, we are being told that our boundaries are being crossed.
Knowing when something is crossing one of our boundary points, be it physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual is important and something everyone should learn to pay attention to.
There are two ways to deal with those things in life that cross our boundaries.
The first is to address them directly. To speak up and out, and to let someone know that what you are hearing, feeling, or experiencing is not acceptable. This many times leads to conflict, but sometimes it’s important to engage in conflict in order to grow. You can be in conflict with someone and still love them. For many people, learning to deal with conflict is a lifelong lesson – and an important one at that!
The second way is by actually taking whatever our boundary is and increasing it. For example – if you find yourself becoming irate and angry when someone comes to your house unannounced, you can learn to increase that boundary from “It’s not okay for someone to come over unannounced” to “it’s okay if they stop by unannounced, but I have a right to determine if they can come inside the house or not.”
Many people hold onto angry without engaging in either of the two solutions, however, and this is not healthy. Anger has been proven to increase blood pressure, stress levels, and lead to other serious medical conditions.
While the above two methods are the best way of working with anger, there is another way to release anger. It involves physical activity; Running, boxing, playing sports, exercise, hitting a pillow, and even screaming are all physical ways of reducing anger.
Yet there is something even more effective than physically releasing anger. Meditation. Closing the eyes, taking three deep slow breaths, and allowing yourself to focus on something other than the point that caused anger can also be an effective way of reducing anger.
Our prayer for this week is as follows:
I am happy and content, now and forever. I know God is within me and contains only perfect joy. God is the Spirit of all and knows only truth and right action. I feel happiness flowing through me and all around me. I feel myself being the light of God for those struggling with their own emotions. I believe that happiness is for everyone and I do not allow my own happiness to be limited or destroyed – for I am fully in control of my emotions and I choose them as freely as I choose what to read, listen to, or watch on TV. I am blessed with joy and I bless others in joy that they too may find happiness within and not seek it externally. So it is, so it is, so it is. I believe, so it is!