By Christine Hirlehey
We all know that finding love depends very much on the Law of Attraction. We also know that maintaining a relationship requires synchronization between your energy and that of your partner. As romantic relationships are intrinsically linked to energy, this is an area of your life where astrology can be the most help.
Astrology is all about understanding energy. Astrology is based on the belief that the energy of the universe is generated by, or reflected in, the movement of the different planets through the constellations. Understanding the position of the planets at the time of our birth helps us understand our innate, natural energy. Meanwhile tracking the current movement of the planets and the energy being generated, and how this energy interacts with our own, can help us understand the current challenges that are happening in our lives, and why we may feel the way we do at a certain moment. Understanding the energy of another person can also help us better understand how our two energies will interact and how compatible we may be.
With this in mind, here is some general advice about your energy and what it means for love and relationships, based on your Sun Sign.
But remember, your Sun Sign is only one part of your astrology birth chart, and for more personalized information about your innate energy, you should consider investing in a full natal chart.
Aries (March 21-April 19)
With your fiery energy you are excitable and impulsive, as well as driven by your need to be ‘the best’. A fire sign, you are confident, passionate and determined, but also a little impatient and short tempered. Your charisma draws people to you, but your focus on yourself and the tendency to overlook the feelings and needs of others can be trying for relationships.
When it comes to romance, you like to take the initiative. You fall in love quickly, and are always honest and upfront about your own feelings. You expect the same openness and forthrightness from your partner and are easily frustrated if they seem to be playing games. Your tendency to focus on your own feelings does mean that you can often miss important signals that other people are sending you about how they feel.
Improve your relationships by focussing on really listening to other people and hearing what they are saying, rather than listening for what you want to hear and focussing on how it makes you feel.
Most compatible with Libra and Leo
Taurus (April 20-May 20)
You are practical and romantic, and highly sensitive to the things happening in the world around you. An earth sign, you have the ability to stay rooted when everything around you seems like it is in chaos and to persevere when others give up. You have a stubborn streak that can lead you to stick with things that you should probably have let go, including relationships.
Meeting new potential partners can be a challenge as you take a while to warm up to people and feel comfortable enough to let down your guard. While you are right that it is smart to be cautious, don’t procrastinate too long or a good one might get away. Once you are in a relationship you are very open about yourself and supportive of your partner. In fact, you can be so open and supportive that sometimes you can come across as a little needy. You also tend to put the needs of your partner first and lose sight of your own.
Improve your relationships by always remembering to take time for yourself. When you are happy and content, your partner and relationship will be better as well.
Most compatible with Scorpio and Cancer.
Gemini (May 21-June 20)
Intelligent and thoughtful, you have many personalities, which can be difficult for others to keep track of. An air sign, you have a level of intellectuality that makes you intriguing to others, and an innate curiosity that is highly endearing. However, your changeable nature and the sense that you are always seeking can make others view you as incomplete and like you are looking for something that is missing.
Your gregarious nature means that you often meet new potential partners, but can breeze through them quickly as you are constantly attracted to the next new thing. When you do form a relationship, your mood swings can be challenging for your partner. You also need a partner with a strong sense of who they are, to counterbalance your changeable nature. Be wary of partners that use your changeable nature to try and mold you into the person that they want.
Improve relationships by gaining a deep understanding of who you are at your core, even if the dressing changes, so that you know where you are willing to flex and where you need to stand firm.
Most compatible with Aquarius and Sagittarius.
Cancer (June 21-July 22)
Deeply intuitive and sentimental, you are loyal and empathetic. A water sign, you are guided by your emotions and your heart. You are always quick to help others and try to avoid conflict, which means that you are often backing down when you should be stepping up.
You throw yourself into new love with vigor and without concern that the heart you wear on your sleeve may be hurt. You are flexible and willing to compromise to make a relationship work, but sometimes the compromises you make can be unhealthy for you as a person and make you unhappy, though you will suffer in silence rather than rock the boat. You will benefit from a partner who is able to read your unspoken signals.
Improve relationships by working on your self-awareness of how things make you feel, and knowing that you are entitled to both feel and share those feelings.
Most compatible with Capricorn and Taurus.
Leo (July 23-August 22)
Self-confident and dominant, you always need attention and to feel like a superstar. A fire sign, you have no problem asking for what you want, but can sometimes neglect the needs of others as you pursue your own goals.
You are confident when meeting new people as you have a high opinion of your self-worth; potential partners can find this both attractive and off-putting. When you are in a relationship you are loving and generous, but also a bit of a control freak, requiring everything to work on your terms. You need a partner that can stroke your ego while bringing you down to earth when necessary.
Improve relationships by learning to share both the limelight and control. Your partner will thrive off these things just as much as you, and the brighter they shine, they brighter you will shine.
Most compatible with Aquarius and Gemini.
Virgo (August 23-September 22)
You are hard-working, selective, and often critical, as you hold everything to a high standard. An earth sign, you have a strength of character and unerring moral core, you will always do the right thing even when it is difficult. You have consistently high standards and tend to be overly critical, especially of yourself, which can lead to disappointment and feeling inadequate.
Your feeling that you are not good enough, or not yet ready and need to work on yourself further, can make it difficult to form new relationships. Though you also tend to attract admirers unintentionally. When you are in a relationship you allow yourself to be highly emotional, which can be a surprise for a partner who met the more reserved you that you share with the outside world. You thrive with a partner that can constantly show you that you are valued and loved.
Improve relationships by working on accepting yourself for who you are, an imperfect work in progress. Only when you accept yourself will you truly believe that a partner can accept you as well.
Most compatible with Pisces and Cancer.
Libra (September 23-October 22)
Peaceful and fair-minded, you thrive off the energy of others, and can sometimes fear being alone. An air sign, you have a strong intellect and are always keen to get to the bottom of things. This can sometimes lead you to go quite far down a path that isn’t right for you, and then struggle to extract yourself.
Your craving for companionship can sometimes make you too focussed on trying to find a romantic partner, and you may explore relationships with people that you know aren’t right for you from the outset. When you are in a relationship you actively work to maintain peace and harmony, sometimes sacrificing your own happiness in the process. You are often drawn towards a partner that you see as a protector, but as well as a shield, you need someone who helps you find your own inner strength.
Improve relationships by knowing when something isn’t right for you and when you need to put your own happiness first.
Most compatible with Aries and Sagittarius.
Scorpio (October 23-November 21)
One of the fiercest signs of the zodiac, you use your powerful intuition to get the things you want in life. Unlike the other water signs, you don’t let your emotions run freely. You are highly secretive and access to your emotions needs to be earned. You can’t tolerate dishonesty, and are very jealous and suspicious, which can often manifest in unhealthy ways.
When it comes to dating you like to be pursued. You will always send clear signals to a potential partner that you are interested, but will rarely make the first move. While you fall in love quickly, you often wait to open up fully to your partner, and will usually release secrets little by little. While you are always open and respectful in your relationships, you have a vengeful streak and can be unforgiving.
Improve relationships by trying to better understand the real cause of your jealousy. Is it really something your partner has done or is it some insecurity within yourself that needs addressing.
Most compatible with Cancer and Taurus.
Sagittarius (November 22-December 21)
Always ready for an adventure and with an infectious sense of humor, you never stay in the same spot for long. A fire sign, you are extroverted and enthusiastic and thrive on change. You treasure your freedom and struggle against opportunities that might time you down, including relationships.
While you love meeting new people and can bond with them quickly, your tendency to be tactless and superficial can derail relationships in the early stages. It will take someone special to coax you to consider to settle down, and they will likely share your passion for adventure and comfort with instability. They will also be the type of person who can tell you when you are just being a jerk.
Improve relationships by remembering that adventures come in all shapes and sizes, and just because a relationship might tie you down a little, it also provides new opportunities and experiences.
Most compatible with Aries and Gemini.
Capricorn (December 22-January 19)
Ambitious and hard-working, you focus on building safety and security in your life. An earth sign, you are always responsible and reliable, often leading you to commit to things that don’t align with your personal priorities. You are fiercely independent, and while you offer your own help freely, you are extremely reluctant to rely on others.
It is extremely difficult for another person to catch your attention, and even harder to break down the walls you have erected around yourself. When you do meet someone who makes it through you give yourself to the relationship easily, but simultaneously struggle to make serious sacrifices to support the needs of the other person. You need a partner who is independent enough to deal with your independence, and sensitive enough to know when you need help, as you will never ask.
Improve relationships by exercising your generosity muscle. Volunteer for charity, help friends and family who need it, practice being generous, so when the times comes to compromise in your relationship it feels a little easier.
Most compatible with Taurus and Cancer.
Aquarius (January 20-February 18)
You may seem shy and quiet, but you are just playing it close to the chest, you are eccentric, energetic, and adapt easily to new situations. An air sign, you are a deep thinker and highly intellectual. Your biggest challenge is the feeling of being limited or constrained, including in relationships.
A stimulating mind and wicked sense of humor are your aphrodisiacs. You will often find that you develop a great friendship before it blossoms into romance. When you do meet someone who floats your boat, you are willing to take risks to make the coupling work, and in a long-term relationship, you are loyal and trustworthy. You value your independence within a relationship and like to maintain somethings that are just yours, something you also encourage in your partner.
Improve relationships by being wary of neglect. While the mutual independence you have in your relationships is healthy, don’t become so distant that your partner feels neglected.
Most compatible with Leo and Sagittarius.
Pisces (February 19-March 20)
Friendly and selfless, you thrive in the company of others and develop genuine friendships with people from all walks of life. A water sign, you are empathetic and have the ability to express your emotions freely. You never judge other and are always tolerant of differences.
You can sometimes be a little over the top when it comes to dating as you are keen to impress. You will probably date a wide variety of people before settling down as you appreciate the diversity of human experience, and never try and change people to suit your needs. In a relationship you are very forgiving, which is great when it comes to navigating the rough patches that all relationships experience, but sometimes you can be too forgiving and give second chances when they aren’t deserved.
Improve relationships by knowing the difference between forgiveness and walking away. You can forgive someone for their actions while still knowing that it means that the relationship is not for you.
Most compatible with Virgo and Taurus.