What to do Before Live Psychic Readings

If you are reading this it is probably because you want to know what to do before live psychic readings. Now that you’ve decided to book a session the question remains, what should I do now? What is the next step? In this article I’ll provide three key pieces of information that will help you prepare for a psychic reading.

Turn off Your Cell Phone

Before your live session you should take the time to make sure you do some very practical things. For example, turn off your cell phone. I can all but guarantee that if you leave your cell phone on it will ring in the middle of your session. This is never a good thing. A ringing cell phone, even if you don’t answer, is enough to interrupt a psychic’s train of thought. At best it can take a reader a few minute  s to get back in to the appropriate head space to continue the session. At worst it will create an energy which will bring your session to an early end.

People close to you will many times be drawn to the energy that you and your spiritual guides create during a session. They will instinctively and subconsciously reach out to you – wanting some of that energy for themselves. So it’s best to make sure your phone isn’t just in silence mode, but turned off completely until the session is over.

If your live session is a Skype or phone session you also want to make sure you tell people that you won’t be available for them until after the session. Again, people find themselves easily attracted to energy. If you don’t set boundaries like this, interruptions can hurt the session.

Mediate and/or Pray

The second thing you’ll want to do to prepare for a psychic reading is either meditate or say a prayer before your session.

Your reader will probably protect the room and space before you get there or call. Still, it’s smart to take some time before a session to do your own mind clearing. A quick meditation and/or prayer can go a long ways in making your session that much more productive. It will also help to calm your nerves and put you into a receptive state to openly receive the best possible information that the psychic will provide.

If you’re at a lost for what to say you can always do a simple prayer. For example:

This session is blessed and protected by All that Is. Allow my mind and heart to be open and help the reader to speak what needs to be spoken.

The above prayer has been used effectively by many clients in the past. It helps to prepare both you and the reader for the session ahead. By saying it in your head (or verbally) you’ll be putting powerful energies to work for you.

Write Your Questions Down

Finally, when it comes to live psychic readings it’s always a good idea to write down any important questions that you have before a session starts. You may think you can keep all your questions in your head, but most people end up having what is termed psychic amnesia when they get in the middle of a session.

Psychic amnesia is a condition that impacts clients when they are overloaded by the energy of a session. It causes them to forget certain facts or questions that under normal circumstances they wouldn’t forget. Always write down your questions before a session and make sure to have those questions with you.

Many times a psychic will answer your questions without you ever having to ask them. This is always nice and a great validation, but you should still take any opportunity given to ask whatever questions may be left.

Always make sure your questions are open ended questions and phrased in a positive manner. While yes/no questions can be answered, you will get more value and information out of open ended questions.

It’s also usually a good idea to avoid when questions as many psychics aren’t naturally good at providing timing or time lines. If they do provide them during a session that’s always a bonus, but answering when questions can be tricky at best.

In summary I’ve presented to you three things which you should keep in mind before partaking in a live session with a psychic. These include silencing your cell phone, taking the time to clear the mind with prayer or meditation, and writing down the questions which are most important for you to get answered.

Your intuitive session should be fun, informative, and insightful and by keeping these three tips in mind you’ll be off to a great start before the session even begins.

Preparing for a Psychic Session

Many people, especially those new to the psychic field, wonder how they should go about preparing for a psychic session. While many psychic readers are eager to book an appointment, few professionals take the time to explain the right procedure for receiving a psychic reading. Here are several tips to follow to help you prepare for your session.

Relax Before the Session

If a psychic is going to connect with a you, then you must be in a relaxed state. Several professional psychic readers will help or recommend that their clients perform a short meditation, progressive relaxation, or prayer before a session begins.

When a psychic connects they are working primarily with the energy of their client. If that energy is chaotic, stressed out, or in a panic, those feelings may interfere with a psychic’s ability to accurately receive information. There are a few exceptions to this rule, but as a generality this is true.

Likewise, if a client could take the time to do a progressive relaxation or even to mediate prior to a psychic reading it will help the energies within the room to be more calm, relaxed, and at ease. This may very well help create a more positive environment for spirit guides and angels.

Be Open Minded

When a psychic is connecting in a session they may not be “right on” about everything. That doesn’t mean they aren’t close and it doesn’t mean that the information may not be important at some point in the future. You don’t have to volunteer information to a reader, but you do need to be open minded enough to register what is being said.

The job of any psychic is to pass along information they receive. Recognize that your reader is a human being and will sometimes make mistakes in the interpretation of the information they receive. The information may be very correct, but they may be interpreting it incorrectly.

Most professionals in the psychic field do encourage open minded skepticism as this keeps a client from blindly following everything they hear. Psychic advice should be taken as food for thought and not law. Understanding and avoiding psychic fraud and how it is different from a real psychic session is important.

Learn to Listen

During a session, unless a direct question is asked, it’s best to not say anything. A professional psychic, unless performing a spiritual counseling session, shouldn’t be asking many questions. Sometimes, a few questions can help keep the reader on track. Too many questions and a client will feel as though the reader is fishing for information and performing cold reading techniques.

Sit with the arms and legs uncrossed, as crossing the arms and legs is a defensive body posture that can shut a psychic down before the session even begins. This shut down can happen either literally, because the energy is being blocked, or because the reader is registering the defensiveness unconsciously.

At All Times Be Honest

It’s also important to be truthful during a session. Being open minded is not the same as lying or accepting everything as fact. It’s okay to indicate that the information isn’t making sense right now or that it would be helpful to have more information.

Try to avoid directly saying the word “No” when possible. “No” carries such a strong negative vibration for so many people that most psychics aren’t sure how to handle it when a client utters that word. For many professional psychics, to them it feels like you are slamming a door in their face.

Record the Information of the Reading

Always write down information that is said during a session. If possible, use a recorder to tape it. Most people have a short attention span and difficulty remembering. These clients won’t remember many of the things which are said or discussed during a psychic session. The problem is, most psychics are distant future predictors. This means that the majority of professional readers are doing future oriented readings and see five, sometimes ten years or more into the future. There’s almost no way to measure accuracy without keeping notes.

It’s always nice when those future oriented readers can keep things to a few months or a few years. Even then, having a record of the session is important as it allows a client to refer back to what is said. Additionally, if a client decides to see multiple psychics, they then have a way to measure which information seems to be most consistent for them.

Ask Good Questions During the Session

Finally, our discussion on preparing for a psychic session wouldn’t be complete without discussing the importance of asking good questions.

Asking good questions can really help to keep the session focused and on track. The more focused the client, the more focused the psychic and their reading. Good questions generally are specific and open ended.

  • Try “What if” questions. They allow the reader to make the most of their gifts.
  • Avoid timing questions unless it’s specific. It’s better to ask “Will the house sell within three months?” as opposed to “Will the house ever sell?”
  • You shouldn’t ask “yes/no” questions unless you really want to hear the answer.
  • Asking private information about another person is unethical and is best avoided. It’s okay to ask “What are my boyfriend’s intentions?” It’s not okay to ask “What is the name of the girl he’s cheating on me with?”
  • It’s always okay to ask for the best way to avoid problems and pitfalls

Now that the tips for how to get a reading have been revealed, it’s time to stop letting fear get in the way of receiving one. Not only could the session be fun, but something important just may be learned.

Modern Ten Commandments for the Spiritually Minded

Modern Ten CommandmentsMany are familiar with the Ten Commandments as presented in the Old Testament of the Christian Bible or the Jewish Torah. What would the Ten Commandments look like if they had come about today as opposed to in Israel B.C. era?”

I propose something similar to the following:

1. Honor Religions Equally (within reason)

Know that God had a hand in the creation of each religion and religious as well as spiritual movements. You can not teach every person the same thing in the same way, as people learn differently. The many different religions and spiritual paths, when focused on from the perspective of love, all come from the greatness and goodness of God.

Anything that is not loving should not be confused with as coming from God. When one understands that the nature of God is (and can only be) that of good – they are better able to interpret and understand the majority of the world’s religion’s Holy books. In essence, if it involves hurting another, quite simply, it doesn’t belong in religion and it likely came from man’s ego as opposed to God’s will..

 

2. Watch Your Tongue – Avoid Negativity

Every time you speak negatively of anyone or anything you dishonor the essence of who God is. Learn to be intelligent and savvy in how you disagree and don’t stoop to the level of the shadow – hurling insults or words based on hurt or hate. You were given voices to communicate so that together you can make the world a better place. How insulting it must be to God that so many uses those voices to destroy instead of to create.

Additionally, any and all thoughts and feelings we put out, negative or positive, activates the law of return. This law, in essence, indicates that what a person puts out on a conscious level and absorbs on a subconscious level must eventually be mirrored back to them in the physical world they live in.

 

3. Do Not Gossip

This is aligned with what we were just speaking about. It is breeding negativity. Do not talk about those who are not present and do not talk about those things which you are not directly capable of influencing.

 

4. Take Time To Unplug and Reset the Self

Once a week you should spend one day without electronics. This includes no TVs, no internet, no computers, no video games. Spend one full day in communion with other human beings, nature, or even just God. You will feel better and you will learn how to think for yourself again. You’ll also find yourself feeling more connected to God – the Cosmic source of all that is good.

 

5. Honor Authority Figures (within reason)

Be they your parents, your leaders, or your teachers. Everyone has someone that they report to. Learn to honor those in charge and to be honest with them. Learn to submit and surrender to authority – especially when you recognize authority which comes from a place of love. Learn the importance of blessing those whom you may have difficulties getting along with.

 

6. Do Not Kill Another Human Being

To kill another human being is the most tragic of transgressions. It devalues all of life and serves no purpose. There should be no wars, not in God’s name, not in anyone’s name. Killing is killing. Period.

Keep in mind too that you can kill someone without physically killing them. Killing the spirit – or murder of the soul- is an equal transgression to physical murder. Be willing to lift each other up and not bring each other down or crush the ambitions and dreams of another.

 

7. Do Not Steal

All humanity should be willing to share, as much as they are capable, with their brothers and sisters. As such, there is never a reason to steal. This includes property, money, and even ideas.

Always give credit where credit is due. Everyone needs praise and recognition. To not give it is to steal in a very different way.

Always give love to your brothers and sisters of the world. To withhold love is stealing in yet another way. When I say give love to your brothers and sisters I mean it in the familial sort of way. The love that is shared between family members. This is not a lustful or sexual type of love – rather it is the type of love you would hold for your best of friends or your closes of family members.

 

8. Be Chaste

Discipline yourself to be chaste in thoughts and actions.

To be chaste is to be pure. It is to not indulge in that which is unnecessary. This means being very selective in who you share the deepest levels of sexual intimacy with. It means avoiding adultery in all forms.

I believe that God still values marriage as the most sacred vowel two people can give. Man and Woman, Man and Man, Woman and Woman. Regardless, it is a vowel that should mean more than any other vowel you make – especially since it is a vowel not only between two people, but with God as well.

 

9. Do Not Get or Be Greedy

Greed changes the soul. To keep wanting is dangerous. Your shadow self will always want more. No matter how much power you are given or earn – no matter how much wealth you accumulate – the shadow self will always want more.

You can not truly be happy nor know and understand the meaning of heaven on earth if you keep wanting and desiring that which you do not have. This takes you away from happiness. Be thankful instead for what you do have and keep living life as a good person – this is the formula for happiness.

Likewise, remember, as stated before, to share that which you have excess of. It always makes a difference to those whom you share with and that allows them to improve their life while giving you joy of spirit to know you’ve assisted in the process.

10. Honor Your Promises

To make a promise is to make a pledge. To pledge is to vowel. Upholding your end of a bargain/pledge/vowel – provided the vowel itself is not based in hate, anger, or fear – is important. It is important not only to that whom the vowel or promise was made to, but it’s important for the soul of the individual who makes such a vowel or promise.

It weighs heavily on the soul when a promise or vowel is not lived up to or fulfilled. Thus, be careful who you make promises to and the type of promises you make. Don’t make them if you have any doubt at all about fulfilling them. When you make a promise you are binding yourself to another…. and this is very serious. So again, I say, only make promises with which you are certain you can fulfill and never let someone force you into a promise with which you are not comfortable with.

 

In essence, perhaps it’s time people start working on bringing the qualities of God (which, as stated, are all good) into life. We all have a responsibility to try to allow God to work through us. We all have a responsibility to live our lives in the most positive and best way possible (without intentionally harming another).

 

If all of humanity could find it themselves to live these out – would it make a difference? Would life be different? I don’t know. I do know the idea of a world of love and peace – no matter how unrealistic – is what drives me in my own spiritual quests and pursuits and while I may never see it in the physical world – I’d like to think of what is possible with the shifting and changing of consciousness of all. What would the modern Ten Commandments look like if you were allowed to have input?

Can You Trust Phone Psychics?

phone psychic

 

A common question that many clients ask me is can you trust phone psychics? I usually smile and wait for them to say more so I know why they are asking the question and where they are coming from. Having been a psychic that has both done both private psychic readings both in person and by phone as well as a reader who has worked for one of the top psychic hotlines, I think I am well qualified to answer this question.

Can You Trust Psychic Phone Companies?

So what is the answer?

The truth is, it depends.

It depends on what you mean when you ask the question and it also depends on which psychic and/or company you’re using.

For starters you have to understand that like myself there are intuitive readers who do professional readings independently. There are also huge companies ran by corporations that hire a large number of people to do readings over the phone. Most independent readers, like myself, will typically do one on one private sessions by phone in addition to in person or email readings.

How Well Can Independent Psychics be Trusted?

When it comes to an independent reader how well you can trust them depends on a number of factors. How long have they been doing this work? Where did they learn or train? Do they have testimonials? Etc. Basically, the same things you would use to judge any businesses as trustworthy is what you’d use to judge an independent psychic as being trustworthy. Although you should read up on and be familiar with psychic fraud so you can protect yourself from it.

Most of your top professional readers are going to fall into this category. People like John Edward, the former Sylvia Brown, Michelle White Dove, James Praagh, Doreen Virtue, Christopher Penczak, the Long Island Medium, etc. Most of your psychics who are aspiring to reach this level in their career will fit in here too. These are the psychics people most often think about when they talk about getting a professional reading.

The Good and Bad of Psychic Phone Companies

What about companies that specialize in phone psychic readings? The so called psychic hotlines? Companies like Keen.com, California Psychics, Hollywood Psychics, and others. Are they trustworthy?

Again, the answer is… it depends.

Most of these sites and companies work very hard to try to hire whom they think are the best in the business. Does that mean that all phone psychics on one of these lines are going to be right for you? No, of course not. Just like not all independent psychics will be right for you either. Does that mean the entire company should be avoided? No, I don’t think that either.

What I do think is that you have to be responsible in how often you use one of these psychic companies and you also have to learn how to absorb, but not judge, information.

There are actually many talented people working on some of these lines. They choose to work there as opposed to running an independent business for a number of reason. One of the biggest being the provided marketing and advertising that goes along with being associated with a big corporate company. Another reason is they feel like they have other professionals in their field they can connect with.

What’s the downside to these companies? There are some readers that, honestly, have learned the longer they can keep you on the line the more money you’ll end up spending. The more money you spend equals the more money they get paid. This also means there are some readers on these lines who purposely make things up to keep hopes alive and to keep someone talking – knowing that there is a payoff coming for doing so.

This is a problem you generally won’t have with an independent professional intuitive who does sessions from their office either in person or by phone or Skype.

Most independent professional readers charge a set fee for either a ½ hour or an hour of their time. Not a per minute fee. Some will even go a little over the amount of time you paid for with no extra charge. This typically happens when you’re needing a little extra lift. In this case there is no need to keep someone on the phone for a certain period of time in order to try and get more money from them. This also means there is no need to make things up or keep hopes alive. Instead, you get someone that’s more like a counselor or life coach who is usually genuinely interested in helping you to both improve your life and heal from the past.

Another thing that the big companies do which creates some minor issues is they only allow their readers to talk about certain things or topics. This is purely for legal reasons as a means of covering their own asses. Thankfully, independent readers aren’t under this restraint. We usually post a disclaimer and/or have a code of ethics we follow, but it’s usually nowhere near as limiting as the corporate world.

What the psychic companies truly have going for them is that because they are normally backed by huge corporations they are usually able to offer an unlimited number of refunds for unsatisfied clients. Thus you will keep being sent to a new reader until you are happy. Unfortunately, most independent readers are very limited in their ability to do this.

I actually prefer working as an independent reader as opposed to when I was working a psychic hotline. I find the quality of the session tends to be much better when there aren’t time restraints and policies that have to be worried about.

The Seven Step Path to Being Spiritual

Seven Step Path to Being SpiritualThere is a prescribed path that one can use to become spiritual. It is tested and is a common path that many Christian mystics, have followed over the years. It was originally designed by Bonaventure (1217-1274) who framed it from a Christian theology perspective. I’ve tweaked it a bit so that now a person of any religious background, or none at all, can use it as their own road-map to the Divine without a strictly Christian viewpoint attached to it.

Before we get started I must offer a few words.

This path is not for everyone. In fact, it’s not even for most people. While the early steps are easy and will leave most laughing in just how simple they are, the later steps require certain sacrifices of belief, mind, and lifestyle that few are truly willing to make.

Many will disagree with what being spiritual means from this perspective, but few will deny that at least some spiritual wisdom can be gained at various points along this path.

While this is not my own path I have consciously elected to follow, I present it here so others have a chance to determine if it’s a path that works for them and so others can understand that they, at times, do indeed connect with some of these various steps/stages which are spoken of.

 

Step One: In Nature

The first step involves getting out into nature. It involves sitting in the grass, sand, woods, or by the stream, lake, beach. It involves having a fascination in animals and plants and observing them, in person, from afar. It involves feeling the sun, rain, heat, cold, etc all upon your skin.

You may ask what does this have to do with being spiritual? The response is, everything. You must allow yourself to partake in these experiences, if possible, daily in some form. It is through these nature experiences that you can begin to understand that something larger is at work around and even through you.

 

Step Two: Through Nature

Now that you have grown aware of nature and the natural world around you, you can begin to do what is referred to as merging with nature.

To merge with nature is to start asking… “How would I respond to this problem if I were a blade of grass, a tree, a stream, a wolf, a bear, a dove, an eagle, the sun, the moon, the stars?” It is the process of learning to see the world through the eyes of another creature of our world. It is about stopping and realizing that everything that is at work in our world is part of the larger work of art. It is about coming to the understanding that most of nature doesn’t think, it only lives. It’s about setting the groundwork in the subconscious mind that to be spiritual isn’t about denying life, but to be fully present in life as it is at work in its many glorious ways.

 

Step Three: Introspection of Self via Love

Once you’ve mastered seeing the world through the eyes of nature. It’s time to turn your attention inward. As much as people hate it, journal writing becomes very important at this stage.

Introspection is the process of looking within and understanding the self. It’s not meditation, par say, but it’s a force as great as that of meditation.

When introspecting it’s important to look for inner love. To ask the self, at the inner deepest most level, what is love? How do I manifest love? How do I love myself? Is that action I’m thinking about doing a true representation of love? Is what I’m about to say something I would say if I were in love? Are the emotions I’m feeling a true representation of the love I am capable of choosing to feel? These are answers no guru can give you, but are answers you must find within. Only when you can view yourself as a fully loving being that tries with every ounce of your inner being to show and express love toward yourself, will you be ready for the next step.

It’s important to realize that sometimes loving the self involves saying no to things you don’t like. Sometimes loving the self involves telling someone you can’t be around them anymore. Sometimes loving yourself involves doing what you must do for you and your own peace of mind. Though this point can be debated later, the process to that later must begin here.

It’s equally as important to ask yourself questions posed from a positive framework, as we always find our own answers to the questions we ask. Additionally, a positive framework is more becoming of love as opposed to self criticizing framework. So instead of asking, how can things be worse – ask how can I help make things better. Instead of asking the self “Why do I attract the wrong man?” Try asking yourself, “What qualities must I have in the man that is right for me?” Instead of asking, “Why can’t I ever accomplish my goals?” Re-frame it as “What goals are most important for me to accomplish first to get to my larger goal?” Etc.

Through fostering self love and being reflective, a person can further begin to rewire the mind to perceive the world and the self as part of the world they are within and that is within them differently.

 

Step Four: Introspection about Others as Love

As you master self love you must begin to move from inner self to the inner workings of others. You must begin to state perception and then phrase a positively focused question based on that perception. The question must be about the person, not about you. The question should contain no I or me statement.

Example: “She is being mean to me today. What would make her day better?” “He is saying he doesn’t care about me the way he use to. What is best for him in this moment?” “My boss just fired me. What new opportunities await?” “The family ran out of food and has no money. What resources are available to lighten the load, if just for a bit?” “He just cut me off and is speeding. Is there an emergency?”

The basic tenant of this step is to become aware that most people act on impulse and just live, much in the same way that the natural world around us lives. They have that spark of love inside as well, they may not know how to access it or the circumstances of their life may be preventing them from temporary accessing it. How you respond will either bring pain and suffering upon yourself in the form of attachment to your perceived views that a person must act a certain way, or it will help to release some pain and suffering within their own lives as you send out to them positive energy that can work on many different levels of their being.

Again, this does not mean you should seek out such experiences in life. It doesn’t mean that you won’t have emotions when these experiences come up, but it does work to continue to adjust the way the mind and emotions chooses to view and experience the world and thus your experiences within that world. It is starting to train you to become aware of judgments and false perceptions and to transform your thinking so as to not give power to them.

Introspection and journal writing should continue at this time. The only difference is we are now introspecting about others and the inner nature of others as influenced by the external nature as opposed to introspecting ourselves.

 

Step Five: Contemplation on the Divine as one ultimate power.

Most people want to jump to stage five without doing the work of the first four stages, and this is generally not beneficial as the proper mind has not been developed.

All religions teach us to pray or affirm. This is roughly the same as to Meditate and to clear and focus the mind. These things are done so that we can become aware of the Divine and that the divine essence is one ultimate power.

When we contemplate on that divine essence we start to realize how big that essence really is. When we pray, chant, affirm, engage in ritual, or meditate we do so with the purpose of connecting to and coming to an intimate communion with the divine essence. To feel and experience that divine essence not only around us, but completely within us.

It is only after you have had (and know in your own heart that it has occurred) and understand personal direct experiences with the divine essence that you are ready to move on to the next step. Introspection should continue at this time, with thoughts/feelings/experiences being noted and reviewed consistently.

 

Step Six: Contemplation on others as all part of or within the Divine.

This is where things gets tricky and confusing and in essence, eliminates the first five steps.

At this stage you are ready to acknowledge that the divine is within all. Not just nature, but people. You are able to start to recognize that everything that is happening is happening according to a plan. That your free will, though having the illusion of free will, is helping to mastermind a plan that is beyond human comprehension.

There is no karma, no divine reward. Everything that is occurring is doing so because it’s meant to be that way. You are simply a living being who is partaking in that divine plan, regardless of if you try or don’t try – if you want to be or don’t want to be. You come to realize that all horrible events; past, present, and future happened for a reason that was beyond human control at the time. That no matter who lies to you, cheats you, hurts you, and no matter what emotions are brought up within you – these are all still part of something which is beyond human understanding.

At this stage you will begin to question morality. You will begin to question philosophy. You will begin to question the divine itself – some will even slip into what our modern world calls atheism or agnosticism, but in doing so you’ll still be living out the divine plan.

Does this mean we as humans should hurt people? Lie to people? Cheat people? Etc. No, this brings us to step seven.

 

Step Seven: Realization and Living life with Divine Mind.

On the contrary, because of our awareness of stage six, we begin to enter stage seven. It is here that we start to live life with Divine Awareness of all that is, has been, and ever will be. It now becomes more important than ever to do good in all that you do and say. After all, you will begin to come across many people and start to realize all the people whom live in the world with their inner eyes and hearts closed.

You have a responsibility, at this stage, even if it is a free will illusion, to help and bring awareness to and awaken others to the reality of what is possible when one is of full divine mind comprehension. The point when everyone steps into divine mind is the point when the world as we know it is transformed – where “heaven” on earth truly begins to exist. When the world, as a living organism, reaches “Nirvana”, and where people seek to not only not hurt others and let their ego control life, but to take care of others and be without ego in all they say and do.

There are no attachments at this stage. It is the equal of what Buddhist call enlightenment. You do not worry. You are not afraid. You can’t hate, as there is nothing to hate. There is no suffering. There is no anxiety. You become fully aware of life beyond the physical world. Your intuition is heightened. You love and feel love that is beyond verbal expression. There is no desire to harm another. There are no judgments about others.

 

Notes

1. The seven steps, while they should consciously be done in order, they will often times unconsciously change order form person to person as that person simply exists in and live in life.

2. The nature of the soul is without ego. It must be without Ego because the divine is without Ego. Since the dawn of man humans have wanted the divine to have a personal interest in their lives. To be like a father or mother. While there is nothing in essence wrong with this concept, and while religions that one have chosen to follow should continue to be followed, it is important to note that when one is of divine mind, there is no desire to punish someone – as to do so would be to punish the self and to punish the self would be an act of non-love towards the self which as a result would eliminate the ability to perceive the world though the eyes of others.

Ego only occurs because of our humanness. That humanness is primarily related to our brain and its functioning. It is not related to our soul or our spirit. This is why it is often said to aspiring students by spiritual gurus of various religious traditions to “get brain out of way.”

3. Most people will not be capable of staying in the divine mind framework all the time. Hence the reason for suffering in the world. When on realizes that suffering in the world is part of the master-plan for those who are choosing to experience suffering, be they choose it physically or spiritually, they will be able to release their attachment and either help those people in some capacity or those people will no longer be on the spiritually enlightened person’s radar. While this seems to contradict what is being said, it does not. We may all be one within the divine, but we each maintain our own separate illusion of the world and, within human mind, it is this illusion that we live in. Within human mind, others appear to infiltrate our illusion, but that too is part of the illusion for both. When in divine mind no illusion can truly exist.

4. The best way to describe divine mind is to ask if you’ve ever had a day that went absolutely perfect in every way shape and form and when you retired to bed at night you just couldn’t stop thinking about how amazing the day had been from beginning to end. If so, you’ve had a taste of what being in divine mind – or the divine flow – is like.

5. Though this process can be understood by all, that does not mean all will live it. From the divine mind perspective, it’s okay if something separate from ourselves chooses to do it’s own thing, as it’s still part of the whole equation to the bigger things. I.E., my legs walk, my heart beats, my lungs breath…. they all do different things, but in doing their different things they are all still part of the larger being that is me.

6. The best way to be a fully spiritual being is by starting in your own human life. Do what you’re good at. Follow your human dreams. Help and show love and mercy to others. If you’re in a bad situation, don’t give up, rather keep working to improve it. In doing these things, as small as they are, you are doing for yourself and as such for the larger whole.

When to Get a Psychic Reading

When to get a psychic readingIt’s important to know when to get a psychic reading and when not to get one. Getting a psychic reading is supposed to be a fun experience and provide you with insights into who you are, what your problems are, and where you can take your life. However, there is a right time and a wrong time to get a psychic session. Besides knowing how to get a psychic reading, you should follow these six tips when it comes to determining if it’s the right time to get a session.

Don’t get a reading when in crisis

A person’s natural instinct is to reach for the phone or make an appointment to see a psychic right at the time when they are most under stress. This is perhaps the worst time to get a session. When a person is stressed out or in crisis mode they typically aren’t ready to hear the information that comes through during a session. Likewise, like it or not, they can unconsciously be influencing the reading and, in some cases, the reader. Always wait until you are in a calm place before reaching out to and contacting a psychic.

Do give appropriate notice before you book an appointment.

Trying to book a session on or for the same day is not wise. There are a few reasons for this. The most important reason being that it doesn’t give the reader appropriate time to really prepare for a session. Most psychics do many things before a session. They do everything from meditations and magick rituals to protection prayers. These things are done to insure the best possible session. When they aren’t given the time to do them, sessions can be haphazard at best. Also, booking a session in advance gives you time to find your own calm and peaceful space – this once again tends to make for an all around better session.

Don’t see a psychic just because someone wants you to.

People tend to think gifting a psychic reading is cool. I tend to strongly discourage people from doing this unless they are 100 percent sure that the person they are gifting the session to really wants it. People tend to feel obligate to accept gifts. Just because they accept and use a psychic reading which was gifted to them doesn’t mean they really wanted the reading. There is nothing in the world that can make a psychic reading good for someone that really doesn’t want it. Likewise, if someone wants you to get a psychic session don’t do it just because they want you to. Only do it if you feel it would truly be beneficial and you feel you are truly ready for it.

Do get a psychic reading when you are inspired or lead to do so.

Your own intuition is always going to be best. Take the time to follow it. If you feel a strong need or pull to get a session, go for it. Chances are it will be the right time for some interesting information to come through for you. Just remember to not have any expectations, as those can ruin an otherwise really awesome session.

Don’t get a reading when you’re sick or in a bad mood.

Being either sick or in a bad mood can result in a reading not turning out well. Not only is the reader likely to pick up on these conditions, but it will require more energy by both spirit and the reader to bridge the connection to you. The reason for this deals with the fact that your own energy will be low. This means it takes longer to gets information and it may not be as clear as it otherwise could be. Also, you are less likely to perceive or interpret the information in the manner in which it was intended to be interpreted in.

Don’t get a session if you are broke.

A psychic reading can’t bring you more money. It’s not going to give you the winning lottery numbers or tell you what days to go to a casino to win big. If you are truly broke you don’t need a psychic  – you need to get control of your financial life first. Allow yourself one session if you are going through hardships and then only if you can truly afford it. Too many psychics try to take advantage of people who are use to wasting or blowing their money. Don’t let yourself be one of those people.

Remember, any type of New Age practitioner offers services that are intended to be helpful and beneficial to you, but that doesn’t mean they will provide all of life’s answers. It also, unfortunately doesn’t mean they are always right – after all, psychics are only human like everyone else. Your first priority, long before you determine when to get a psychic reading, should always be listening to and paying attention to your own inner voice.

Do you believe in God?

Do you believe in God?Do you believe in God?

You know…. that higher power that watches over and is part of all things?

A former teacher of mine recently shocked me by saying they didn’t believe in God. That God was, more or less, a fairy tale to make people feel better about themselves and their lives. This teacher went on to say that if God did exist, then God must be evil or not care about the world.

This bothered me. It bothered me because for years I studied many aspects of the metaphysical and spiritual life under this particular teacher. I could not reconcile in my head how someone who is teaching New Age Spirituality can not believe in God. How is that possible?

I can never not believe in God. It’s not who I am. I may have my fights with God, I may get angry at God, I may seek help from God, and I may give thanks to God…. but I could never not believe in God. Nor do I think God is evil or uncaring. In fact, I personally believe that God has a way of working through all people. When we are suffering, sad, alone and someone comes along and says the right thing, or does the right thing, or helps us overcome or feel better… I don’t think for a moment that any of that comes just because a person is a good person. I think, yes they may be a good person, but something higher and something far more than what I could ever be aware of is working through them.

I also personally believe that every single person alive has a spark of God within them. They may or may not choose to acknowledge and access this Divine spark – but I do believe all people are born with it. I believe that when one does acknowledge and learns how to access that inner spark of God that they are capable of amazing things. Some people call that Divine spark Christ Consciousness. Other people have other names for it, such as the higher self, higher mind, God mind, Christ mind, etc. Regardless, I think it is very much alive and well.

I also personally believe that God created everything and that everything God created is good. This means I believe that all people are born good. Now that doesn’t mean that people may not do bad things in the physical world, they certainly may and eventually will, but that’s their freewill decision (and many time because they are not tuned into their inner spark of the Divine) that determines that. This also certainly doesn’t mean bad things don’t or aren’t going to happen in our world. Life is life. There’s always going to be good things and bad things that happen. There will always be natural disasters. There will always be divisions among the races, the rich and poor, even the republican and democrat. I believe the world was designed this way. Designed this way so that in our physical form we can grow, learn, evolve, and learn the true concepts of love, faith, and hope among other things.

So if a spark of God is in everyone and God creates all things good why is there evil in the world? Why do bad things happen to good people? Why can’t life be perfect?

Evil is in the world because people choose to allow it in the world and choose to behave in the physical world in such a manner. As I said earlier, this mostly happens when a person isn’t capable of accessing that inner spark of the Divine. In Christianity this free will decision to do bad is called sin.

People choose to murder, have war, steal, lie, cheat, and be mean. People choose to not help others and ignore others. People choose not to accept help or to feel ashamed for accepting it. Most of the evil which is in our world is there because people allow it to be there and choose it over good. The rest is because of random life events which we have no control over, but with which we beat ourselves up because we wish we had control over them. Even then, people choose to not ask for help or people choose to not help those experiencing and going through those events.

Why though? Why do people choose evil or sin? Why do people choose to ignore that spark of God within? Because they are human. Because they have an ego which dictates things. Because there is an egoistic need for each individual to be “right” and for anyone else to be “wrong,” The ego is powerful. The ego in and of itself is not evil or bad, but too much of anything is never a good thing and the same is true of ego.

So how do we overcome this? How do we become, for lack of a better phrase, better people? How do we foster the God spark within? How do we learn to be of God instead of against God?

Through the process of accepting that we have an ego. By acknowledging that the ego can be a problem and by being alert to that fact. Here are five ways to balance the ego.

1. Listen carefully to what other people say and resist the urge to defend yourself. Learn to thank people for providing insights, and yes, even correcting you. While such times may be hard on the ego and while the natural instinct is to say “you’re wrong”, stomp our feet and pout – we have to learn to acknowledge that regardless of if another is right or wrong we’re in life together as a team.

Some religions believe that all of us, because we share this spark of the Divine, are one experiencing life as an individualistic thought of the multiple thoughts of the One Divine Energy. If this is true, then everything another person says to us, hurtful to the ego or not, has the potential for soul growth.

2. Start working on your personal beliefs in the higher power, whatever you may call it. Again, I say God. I have a very close relationship with God. We fight, argue, disagree – but I also find strength, support, love, guidance and so many other amazing things from that close personal connection.

One of the best ways to develop this personal relationship is through the two fold method of communicating – talking and listening.

We talk to the Higher Power when we pray, speak to it, journal, and use positive affirmations. We listen when we meditate, read, reflect, and pay attention to what we hear through others.

How often do you talk and how often do you listen? Do you talk more than listen? Do you listen more than talk? There must be a balance. Most of us only talk to the Higher Power when we really want something (vs need) and when we really are grateful for something amazing. Would you treat your best friend that way? Only call them when you want something or want to say thank you for something they did for you? Of course not! Work on talking often. Talking about your day, your ups, your downs, the good things, the things you wish could improve, etc. Listen more often too. Wisdom can come from so many places – yet most of us get stuck in thinking it can only come to us via one means…. When you talk and listen, repeatedly over time, you develop strong relations.

Not enough can be said for positive affirmations, for this very special method of communicating with the God within has the greatest potential to change outer circumstances.

3. Learn to apologize to your fellow humans. None of us like having to do this. It’s an ego check for anyone to have to say sorry. We should say sorry often though and mean it. We should also resolve to not allow whatever we are apologizing for to happen again. When someone happens once it is a mistake. When it happens repeatedly it is no longer a mistake, but a problem. When something becomes a problem we need help – be we like it or not.

4. Learn to give to others. Be it a financial donation, clothing, food, a place to stay for a few hours, your time, your love….. learn to give. A very important teacher once told me that a person should never loan anything to other people or invest in other people. Both of these are ego driven for we end up feeling that we must get something back for doing so. Rather we should train ourselves to give to other people. Give unconditionally and without expecting anything in return. This is one of the deepest expressions of love – to give without expecting. This also activates a very powerful spiritual law which ensures that we will consistently and constantly be receiving back too. This law is called the law of circulation. Essentially, what the law says is that what you give out you must receive back in some form, at some point, in equal or of greater value.

5. Likewise, we must learn to accept from others too. When someone offers to do something for you is your instinct to say no, I can handle it? When someone wants and offers to buy you dinner do you fight them on it and try to be the one paying for both of you? When someone wants to talk to you do you find a way to push them away? Accepting is the other part of giving. We can’t just give, we have to accept to. If you’re saying right now “I’m the one always giving and nobody ever offers to do anything for me”, then you’re not aware enough to realize that yes, they have. Optionally, you may be giving because you’re expecting that someone will do something for you and if that’s the case you’re not giving, but you’re investing or loaning in hopes that it’s repaid.

Additionally, it only makes sense that if everyone has a spark of God within them that when other people are wanting to do for us it is because the Higher Power is behind it. Who in their right mind would turn down an offer from the Higher Power? That’s like the story of the man and the flood. He prayed that he would be saved from the flood. A police officer comes by and recommends that he evacuates. He responds “God will save me!” The flood comes and he can’t go anywhere. A man in a boat comes by and asks him if he wants to be taken to safety. The man responds “God will save me!” The flood covers the house and the man is now on the roof. A helicopter comes by and someone drops a ladder and tells him to climb aboard the helicopter. “God will save me!” The man dies.

He is now in Heaven. He asks God, “Lord, why didn’t you save me?!” God tells him “I sent you a police officer, boat, and helicopter, what more could I do?”

This story is an example of how God works through everyone and how each of us hold within us the answers to someone’s prayers and needs.

I personally believe that when we keep these five things in mind we go a long ways in helping to make the world a better place and in becoming more spiritual in our life journey.

I hope this has been insightful and helpful.

Can a Psychic Predict Death?

When I think about the question “can a psychic predict death” it reminds me of an article that I read back in 2014. I was reading about how science had discovered a new way to predict death. Apparently, there is a blood test now that can be ran which basically will tell your doctor if there is a likelihood of you dying within the next five years.

I’m not sure how much I would put my faith in this… I personally feel it’s more likely the test will tell you if there is going to be significant health problems which must be dealt with in the next five years. Regardless, it’s a topic that’s making a lot of news right now.

I have many people that have asked – and that likely in the future will continue to ask – “Can you predict death?”

So this is our question of the month this month. A question which, unfortunately, focuses around a complicated topic and one that requires a little bit of discussion as opposed to a straightforward answer. Still, I know some people just like the straightforward, so that will be addressed first.

The Straightforward Answer About Predicting Death

Can a psychic predict death? The answer is, well, maybe. Sometimes. Not usually.

What Makes The Death Question so Complicated?

Free will. Many people die when they are ready. There are of course exceptions to this, but many pass away when they are ready and usually close to their birthday as that is attuned to the natural cycle of their energy. This is, of course, only true provided the death is natural, which for most people, at least in the United States, is very rare.

Free will can do marvelous things. It can spur a person into living longer than people believed they would or should and it can take an otherwise healthy person and bring them to a point of total sickness, even terminal illness, in a short period of time.

The only person that truly knows when a person is going to go is the one above. I don’t care if you call that energy God, the Holy Guardian Angel, The Universal Consciousness, The Architect of the Universe, or something else all together different. It is the only power that can truly know when a person is going to die.

I have Predicted Death….

Still, there have been at least three occasion in my own sessions where I have predicted death. In one case, I had no idea that’s what I was doing. In two other’s, I knew very well and the time frames were very close to what was predicted.

The Session with the Gun Symbol

The first involved a very good client of mine that use to see me often. He came in one day. I did his session for him. He didn’t seem like himself. This was very early in my career mind you. Toward the end of the session I mentioned that I saw a gun. I described the gun in some detail to him. Asked if he knew anything about it. His response was no. We finished the session. He went on his way.

About a month went by and I heard nothing from him. I didn’t think anything about it. One day, a few months later, a mutual friend of ours came to see me. He asked if we could talk in private. Of course I obliged. It was then that he revealed to me that my client had killed himself about two weeks after our session. The gun he used to shoot himself matched the description of the gun I had given. The mutual friend had found the tape that was made of our session and listened to it. He realized the reason I was getting the impressions I was getting at the end of the session. I was trying to be warned of his future suicide attempt. I, of course, had no idea. Lesson learned however. From that point forward I started asking people if they were suicidal – if I expected at all. I also ask if I ever see a gun symbol.

I encourage people and students to never be afraid to ask someone this important and blunt question. “Have you’ve been thinking about killing yourself?” That’s not what this article is about, however.

The Mistake of Keeping Information to Myself

Also very early in my career (more than 10 years ago) I was doing a session for a friend of mine. This was a tarot session. In this tarot session a particular configuration showed up (Three of Swords and Ten of Swords) that I knew, even back then, can represent a heart attack. Back then I was under the belief that what a person doesn’t know can’t hurt them. It was showing up in roughly the six month position.

I did the rest of the session which was very positive. We left each other on good terms that day. A good year goes by and I don’t hear anything from this particular friend. When I finally do hear from him I discover about six months after he had last seen me, his father died of a heart attack.

To this day I still wonder if that could have been prevented if I would have shared the information with him. He, incidentally, to this day still doesn’t know that I had seen that the day of the session and I doubt at this point I will ever tell him. I’ve always, since discovering that, have never held anything back when doing a session.

Likewise, I strongly encourage my students that when someone asks for a reading or opinion to always give honestly to them the information that you believe you have available to give, no matter what. You never know if it may be important or not, and it’s better to be honest as opposed to hold something back that may be useful later.

Of course, I also help students to learn that there is a right and wrong way to give information too. We also talk about the psychology of readings and how what is said can impact clients. Ethics must always be kept in mind too. More will be said on these topics in future articles.

The Understanding That You Can’t Prevent Everything

Just as I’ve learned the importance of asking certain question and not being afraid to reveal certain information, I’ve also learned that sometimes no matter how much we know there are just some things that are going to happen in life that we aren’t going to be able to prevent. That doesn’t mean we can’t be aware of what may be coming and preparing ourselves for dealing with it and handling it, but it does mean that we shouldn’t blame ourselves when things happen that are beyond our control,

I had another client I read a few year backs where the same heart attack symbol came up. I indicated to her that it looked like she may need to get a checkup with her doctor ASAP as previously when I had seen this combination in the cards it indicated a heart attack. I further indicated that this was showing up in the very near future, maybe 10-14 days from the time of our session. She laughed and told me she was far more healthier than anyone she knew. I shrugged and figured she knew better than I.

Her son talked to me later and told me his mother had a heart attack about a week after our session. Thankfully she managed to live. She swears up and down that it was because of me that she lived. That she had the sense to realize exactly what was happening to her and call for help. I’m not so sure of that, but regardless at least that story had a happier ending.

Astrology and Death

I’ve been discussing things from tarot and channeling that have come up, but almost every metaphysical discipline has their own rules and methodology for calculating or predicting death. For example, in astrology it is well known that you can’t read a person’s death in their own chart, but by exploring the chart of the people that know them, you can see patterns that could indicate potential death. I.E. If you want to know when mom might be passing you would examine her husband’s, children’s, and any living parent’s charts and look for patterns that may indicate significant loss. If you have enough correlation……

There is a special type of astrology reading that to my knowledge only one person does called an After Life Astrology Reading. This chart uses a person’s time and date of death to both counsel people grieving the person as well as identify factors leading up to the death and what’s going on in their after life now that they have crossed over.

Can a Psychic Predict Death?

The bottom line is, yes death can be predicted, but it’s very rare. A psychic is far more likely to get information regarding an illness, hospital visit, etc then the impressions of actual death or the timing of such an event. Even then, the other person’s free will and their self-awareness can play a huge part in when they transition from this world. Likewise, the one above is the only one that holds any true knowledge of when a person’s time in the physical world will end. As much as people wish they could have a direct line to that all omniscient power, it simply doesn’t exist nor will it ever.

It’s also interesting to note that it’s far more common for people to experience events after a person has passed away as opposed to pick up on when a person is going to pass away. I’ve heard many a story from a student who was awaken in the middle of the night and just knew their son/daughter/father/mother/grandmother etc had transitioned from this world to the next. Some will swear they had a dream about it, a vision, or even actually encountered the spirit itself. All of which are very possible.

Again, that’s not to say there aren’t times when people can feel or know it’s coming, it’s just not the norm.

How to Prepare for Phone Psychic Readings

Do you know how to prepare for phone psychic readings?

A lot of clients live far away from their psychic of choice. It makes getting an in person session with them difficult. As a result, the only real option is a psychic phone reading or Skype session. The problem is that many are unsure of how to prepare for a telephone session.

Preparing for a telephone session is no different then preparing for a live psychic session, except the fact that the psychic and you are in two different places as opposed to the same location. Most phone psychics will not have a problem doing accurate sessions from a distance via telephone. Energy is energy. The will still be connecting with their spirit guides and communicating with angels. They will still be able to get accurate information about both the past, present, and future. Again, the only difference is the fact you will both be in different locations.

There are five things you can do in order to help improve and prepare for your psychic phone reading. These five topics assume that you’ve already researched and chosen a psychic that you feel comfortable working with.

Make sure you won’t be disturbed

One of the worst things that can happen during a session is the session gets interrupted. This is also very hard on the psychic reader. When a session gets interrupted, many time the reader will loose their train of thought and it will take extra time and energy to get it back.

It’s always best to tell people not to bother you while you’re having your session. Likewise, try to make sure the animals are put away. If you have kids see if you can find someone to watch them during your session. Be sure to turn cell phones off. Again, if it’s possible to avoid interruption it’ll make for a better session.

Before your appointment time make a list of questions you’d like insights into

Some people think they can remember all the questions they want to ask or the topics they want to talk about. From experience I can tell you this is almost never true. People tend to forget when they are involved in the middle of a session. Maybe it’s the energy, maybe it’s what the intuitive ends up saying. Regardless, if you don’t write your questions down you’ll end up saying “I wish I would have wrote the questions down.”

As for what type of questions to ask – there really is no right or wrong answer. It’s best to write down things you are curious about or that you want some additional insights into.

Take some time to meditate or pray before phone psychic readings

The more calm and clear your mind is the better an experience you’re likely going to have. If you take some time to just sit in the room and clear your mind before the actual call time, you’ll find you are more open and that many readers will get a better read off of your energy.

Many people like to say a prayer before a session. Though your psychic should have already protected the session before calling, it never hurts to say your own prayers or affirmations. This will help to empower the session, protect it from negative energy or unnecessary information, and let the spirit world know you are serious about your intent to gain insights.

A great sample prayer or affirmation would be:

“Protect this space and the session within in. Empower the reader to be the best they can be. Help me to be clear and open so that I may understand. Guides and angels who are close to me, go to the reader and help the reader to say what needs to be said.”

Don’t use a cell phone for your sessions

It’s always best to avoid using a cell phone for your session. Cell phones have a tendency to drop calls or become filled with static. This is especially true considering the amount of energy that may be present in your session. When possible use a telephone land line. It will help to keep the session from being interrupted or ruined due to lost signals and so forth.

Put yourself into a listening mood, but don’t be afraid to talk

Some people make the mistake of talking the whole session. There are times when that is perfectly okay. After all, all of us just need someone to listen to us sometimes. You won’t, however, get a lot of good or useful intuitive information that way. The only way to get good psychic information is by letting the reader give it to you. This means you have to allow yourself to listen. You also have to be patient.

Sometimes information comes to psychics very slowly. Then there is the process of attempting to understand what the information means. A reader has to play charades, the telephone game, and act as a messenger and adviser all at the same time. Information isn’t always crystal clear – so the reader has to try to interpret the information in the best way they can and get it across to you.

At the same time you should not be afraid to ask questions or to inquire about clarification on things said which you don’t understand.

Take good notes

Finally, it’s important for you to be ready to take good notes. Again, some people think they’ll remember, but in my experience they almost never do. Be ready to write down key points that come up in the session or things which you don’t understand.

If you have the ability to record a session that’s even better. Some readers will record a session for you and send a copy to you after your appointment. Not every reader is able or capable of doing that. In any case, going back over your notes or recordings later can be very revealing, insightful, and informative.

In summary, there’s nothing wrong with getting a psychic session by phone or talking to phone psychics. It can be just as insightful and powerful as having an in person session. Still, there are some things which you can do that will help you prepare for a telephone appointment and even help improve the quality of your telephone session. By keeping these in mind you no doubt will be thankful you took the time to make an appointment.

What is the Difference Between a Psychic and Medium?

Learning the difference between a psychic and medium is not complicated. The best way to remember it is by telling yourself that for the most part every medium is a psychic, but not every psychic is a medium.

Psychic is a broad term used to describe anyone that makes use of what most consider to be “special” gifts or abilities. The truth is all people are born with psychic abilities, so they really can’t be considered gifts. A person who studies psychic development quickly learns this.

So What is Mediumship?

One of those abilities is mediumship. This is the ability to communicate with dead people. A medium specializes in talking to people who have passed on from the physical world into the spirit realm. These people are usually relatives or close friends.

The main task of the medium is to provide validation and proof of after life existence. This is done through using symbolism, audio, sensations, and emotions to convey messages to those in the living from the one in spirit.

For example, the medium may identify the month of death, the first name, how the person died, a favorite color, a favorite memory, a physical description, a personality trait and so forth.

Many times mediums also pass along messages from those in spirit. This could be a simple “I love you” to something much more complicated and complex.

Most mediums make use of the psychic abilities of telepathy, clairvoyance, clairaudience, clairsientience, empathy, and others to receive and pass along those messages. An example of a psychic medium would be John Edward.

George Anderson is the exception to our rules. George Anderson is a medium who claims he is not psychic. This puts a bit of a different spin on things and reminds us that there will always be exceptions.

What are the Different Types of Psychics?

Other types of psychics include health intuitives, psychic tarot readers, psychic astrologers, psychic channels, pet psychics, future oriented psychics, post cognitive psychics, psychic detectives, psychic healers, and a whole range of other kinds of psychics.

What is a health intuitive? A health intuitive specializes in passing along medical information including reasons for illnesses and cures for illnesses. Edgar Cayce was actually a remarkably good health intuitive despite the fact he did many of his sessions “asleep,” Most psychics will not try to provide health related information due to medical laws. Another reason such psychics are considered highly specialized.

A psychic tarot reader and psychic astrologer specialize in using a certain type of “tool” (tarot cards or astrology charts) to pass along information to clients. This information may be about the past, present, or future. It may also involve divination. Divination is the art of getting information to help answer a question.

It’s important to understand that not every astrologer or tarot card reader will use psychic abilities. It’s possible to do any form of divination without the aid of psychic abilities. So you don’t have to be psychic to be able to be a great tarot card reader or astrologer. Psychic abilities can, however, enhance such sessions.

What is a psychic channel? Psychic channels specialize in getting information from spiritual guides and/or angels and sometimes dead people. Unlike a medium, however, they don’t try to validate existence of the afterlife, rather they pass along information which the spirit guide, angel, or deceased person believes to be important to the client. Doreen Virtue would be a good example of a psychic channel who connects with angels. I, John Culbertson, am another example of a psychic channel who connects with angels and spirit guides.

Pet psychics use their abilities to communicate with animals and provide information to the owners from the animal and from the owner to the animal. It’s like they are able to talk a whole different language.

Future oriented psychics, sometimes called fortunetellers, predict the future – many times several years in the future. Some as many as 15-20 years or more. Most today believe in free will and not total predestination. Nostradamus would fall into this category.

A post cognitive psychic specializes in seeing into the past. Some use psychometry – a method of getting information through touch – and others tap into other abilities to get information. The information deals with what has already happened and not what’s going to happen.

A psychic detective uses their abilities to try to help solve crimes. Most are not as successful as they claim they are – though there have been a few exceptions in history. Sylvia Browne claimed to at times be a psychic detective, but much of the psychic detective work she did went unproven or seemed to have served little importance.

A psychic healer taps into energy to use it to heal. Sometimes this happens on the physical level, but more often it is the emotional, mental, or spiritual levels which the healing takes place. Most Reiki practitioners could be considered psychic healers. Many times they also intuitively, like a medical intuitive, know what’s wrong and why certain conditions are occurring.

The fact is, there are a lot of different types of psychics in the world! Almost all psychics will make use of one or more psychic abilities. Let’s now discuss the different types of psychic abilities,

What are the Different Types of Psychic Abilities?

Clairvoyance means clear seeing. It is the ability to see energy or visions. Sometimes remote viewing is also tied to this ability.

Clairaudience means clear hearing. It is the ability to hear spiritual voices.

Clairsientence means clear sensing. It is the ability to feel or project pains or sensations of someone’s body within your own physical body.

The ability to feel or project emotions is called empathy.

Telepathy is, at the most basic level, the ability of mind to mind communication. Often times confused with clairauidence, telepathy operates purely on a mental level. Clairauidence operates purely on a physical level. I.E., a clairauident will literally hear things with their ears that other people usually don’t percieve.

Psychometry is a sub-skill linked to the other psychic abilities and involves touching an object and getting impressions either visually, auditory, emotionally, mentally, or sensually about the object or person who has been in contact with the object’s past and sometimes future. This is sometimes called vibaturgy because the psychic is connecting with the vibrations. Many psychics that claim to be palmist are actually expert psychometrist. By touching a person’s hand they connect with their vibration and begin to read it. This, of course, is not real palmistry which is an art form, but they can fool many a person into thinking they are really doing palmistry.

There are others beside these, but these give you a great starting point for exploring and understanding the various types of psychics and psychic abilities. Hopefully at this point you now understand the difference between a psychic and medium and you further have more knowledge of the different types of psychics in our world.

What is Prayer?

prayingI’ve always been a  big advocate of prayer. Perhaps it was because I was born and raised Roman Catholic. For those who don’t know, which shouldn’t be many, Roman Catholicism is a type of Catholic Denomination that is Christian in origins. A large focus of the religion is on prayer life and there are numerous, what I call scripted prayers, within the faith.

What I’m talking about today, however, is not scripted prayer. Scripted prayer is prayer that has been written down and is read or memorized. No, I’m speaking of affirmative conversational prayer today.That is, prayer which comes from the heart and is spoken aloud, typically in a quiet or private location.

Why Prayer?

Whenever someone asks me why I pray I always tell them, because it works!

When a person prays they are aligning themselves to energies which exist far above and beyond our mere physical world. They are connecting in with a consciousness that goes deeper then what we as humans could ever even pretend to understand.

Not every thing you ask for in prayer you’re going to be given. Asking for things, though, is not really the true purpose of prayer. If that’s what you believe, you largely misunderstand what prayer is all about and why I do it.

So what is prayer?

At the base level prayer is communication with God. Whatever you deem God to be, prayer is about communicating with that energy and force. It’s about allowing the self to be in the presence of God and to experience the goodness, wisdom, and love of God.

You are not reaching outside of yourself to a power that sits loftily in the heavens. Rather, you are turning within yourself to connect with your own soul and the deeper consciousness which your soul is connected with. Through this connection with your own inner soul you are allowing yourself – that soul – to be receptive and open to the God energy that dwells and permeates within every living thing. In doing so and in having open and honest communication with this energy you are allowing your soul – the self – to be open to love, blessings, wisdom, insights, and more that comes from far beyond the physical level of being and existing.

Praying at this level is an individual skill that can be cultivated and developed and is also very personal.

The Power of Osmosis

Osmosis, as discussed here, is the process of gradual unconscious assimilation of information or habits. Everyone has learned through osmosis at some point and time, even if they didn’t understand that’s what they were doing.

Another way to look at osmosis is that if you are around certain friends for any good length of time and if you on some deep level respect them, you will start to mimic or pick up certain habits and traits which they have. You may, for example, start eating or craving a certain food that previously you hated or didn’t care much for. You could start saying things which they normally say. You could begin to feel or believe in the ways in which they feel or believe. This is all part of the osmosis process of being connected to another.

Well, when we pray we align ourselves with the God consciousness. We communicate with it and listen to it. In doing so, over a period of time, we start to absorb more of God’s habits, thoughts, feelings, and attitudes. We begin to realize that we are very small and that the God force energy is far greater then what we know how to describe. We change. We become more loving. We become more peaceful. We become more tolerant. We become more wise. We begin to access the Christ consciousness that allows for the creation of miracles within our lives and the lives of others.

This all comes about through constant, continuous, and consistent contact with the God.

So if prayer isn’t about asking for stuff, what do you do in prayer?

I don’t want you to think you can’t ever ask God for things. By all means, it’s perfectly acceptable and okay to do that. The main purpose of prayer should be on communion and connection though.

Think of it this way. If you have a friend and the only time you hear from them is when they want something from you, how do you eventually start to feel? You feel like you are just being used. That this “friend” only wants you for what you can give to them. You will eventually start to distant yourself from that friend. You may not cut them off completely, but you’ll become very selective about when you choose to interact with them and help them out.

God is no different. God needs to feel loved. God needs to feel cared about. God needs to know He/She/It isn’t just being used. God needs a real connection with us, just like so many of us feel we need real connections with others in our lives. A person can’t be happy with just superficial friendships – rather they need at least one or two good friends that they can connect with on a deeper substantial level. For what reason would we think God would be any different? Shouldn’t God be allowed to have deeper substantial spiritual friendships too? Shouldn’t we?

There are many things you can do when you pray besides ask for things that will serve to deepen your connection to and with God. Examples of just some of these things include:

  1. Saying thank you for the good things which do come into your life, especially when you’ve not asked for them. How would you feel if you gave someone a present and they didn’t seem to care or notice?
  2. Telling God about your day – both good and bad. Develop a dialogue with God that is not contingent on just asking. When was the last time you shared with God how excited you were about your favorite sports team, TV  show, or any other hobby for that matter?
  3. Crying to God explaining your worries, troubles, and concerns. You’re not asking God to make things better, you’re simply sharing your pain with God because you trust and love God. it’s no different then a child who falls off a bike and needs mom or dad’s love while they cry for a bit. We all have a need to cry and many times crying alone and with God can be healing.
  4. Confessing to God the bad things you’ve done and plan to improve upon. Saying I’m sorry directly to God, just like crying to God, can be one of the most healing things you ever do for yourself. Of course, if you’re Catholic you also have the confessional – but regardless of if one chooses to use it or not, just time spent one on one in this manner with God can create lasting change in a person.
  5. Siting in contemplation or relaxation with God just to be in God’s presence. Just contemplating God and thinking about God can enrich your spiritual, emotional, mental, and even physical life. It’s similar to sitting with a friend and not speaking. Just having them there can make a huge difference.

As previously mentioned, I don’t want anyone to think they can’t ask God for things. Just work to balance the asking with a true walk with God. A true connection that goes above and beyond scripted prayer and merely asking for stuff.

Also, while we can ask God for anything, it’s important to understand we do not always get what we want when we want it. That’s just a fact of life. There are many reasons for this and that will be explained in a future blog post.

Having said that, however, there are certain things which we most certainly should ask for constantly and consistently. These include:

  1. Protection: It’s wise to start every day and end every night with asking for protection from the evil and negativity of the day. Try something similar to “Good morning God! I’m ready to journey forth into this day with you and your guidance. Please help protect me from the negativity and evils of the world and focus on seeing only the good and positive around me.”
  2. Guidance: When we are faced with a problem or question which we feel is currently blocking us we should not be afraid to talk to God about it and ask God to help show us insights or solutions through the obstacle or problem.
  3. Love: We should ask for opportunities to both give and receive love. We should understand the when we give love with the right attitude it will always be returned to us provided we are open and willing to accept it.

 

Isn’t it more powerful to pray with others?

Yes, it can be. Once again, however, cultivating your own personal walk with God is of supreme importance. There is a time and place for group prayers, praying with your spouse, praying with your family, etc. The hierarchy of prayer looks something like this,

Personal
Couple
Family
Church/Social Groups
Community
World

Learning to cultivate prayer life for each is extremely important, but they all start at the personal level. Far to many people pray just at the Church level and forget to embrace prayer in the other levels. Worse still, many people pray at the Church level – go through the routine as I call it – but have never taken time to walk one on one with God. It’s as if by appearing in Church and listening to the Bible or going through routine prayers is all that’s needed.

Do you want your life to change? Do you want your life to transform? Then try consistent daily prayer, in the manner spoken of here today – in your life along with Church.

Should we pray for other people?

Yes, absolutely! In fact, asking for things on behalf of and for other people is ten times more important than asking for things for yourself! This is especially true when they don’t know you are doing so! You are communicating with God while at the same time sharing your experience with God while also sharing with God the concerns you’ve heard other people mention to you. This is powerful! It’s like going to your parents and saying “Mom/Dad, my brother/sister isn’t feeling well and doesn’t want to tell you, but I know you need to know!”

I won’t get into a debate here on the omnipotence, omnipresence aspect of God. Theologically I know that God knows all things all the time and never needs to be told anything, but in our physical world which is governed by physics and other scientific laws, sometimes if we stop trying to understand God and just treat God like one of us we end up having a much more fulfilling and content life. This is part of the purpose of prayer – to have that fulfillment and contentment that can only come from the deep rooted inner spiritual connection to God.

 

 

Avoiding Psychic Fraud

Did you know that avoiding psychic fraud can be easy when you are armed with the knowledge of what exactly to look for? In this article I’ll explore with you not only the signs to be on the look out for, but I’ll also talk about how much a psychic should charge, the best method for finding a good reader, and some important questions you should consider asking before paying for a private session.

According to a 2001 Gallup poll, roughly 50% of people polled believed in psychic powers and another 27 percent was undecided on if they believed. In recent hard economical times, according to Danbury News Times, the number of people seeking advice through psychics, clairvoyants, and fortune tellers has increased.

It doesn’t matter if it’s for entertainment or for hopes of finding real answers; some people seek out the help of those skilled in paranormal abilities. Exactly how do you find a respectable and reputable psychic?

Signs that a Psychic is a Fraud

If in your quest to find answers you run across the following scenarios there is a good chance that the reader you’re seeing is involved in deceptive business practices.

  • You are told that you are cursed and for a fee, they can lift the curse.
  • You’re warned that the future looks horrible, but for extra money, they can fix it.
  • You are told that evil spirits are around, but for an extra fee, they can remove them.
  • There is a warning that all chakras or energy centers are shut down and for extra money, they can open them for you.
  • They want you to keep seeing them and only them.
  • They mention they are special and only they have an “authentic and true” psychic ability.

In any of the above cases scenarios psychic scams are occurring. It is best that a person avoids the reader all together or, if in a session, cut it short. These are common scenarios that automatically indicates a person is about to spend far more money on their psychic session then they should be spending.

The Going Rate of a Professional Psychic

How much should a professional psychic reader charge?

According to ValidPsychic.com, the going rate for a palm reader is $30 or roughly $1 a minute. They also indicate that there are good psychics that charge more, but the standard rate tends to be around $30 a half hour.

Unless someone is nationally or internationally known and highly respected, spending $150 or more on a psychic reading tends to be far to much. Psychics that have been on TV, radio, or that have a large following can get away with charging much more.

Best Method for Choosing a Psychic Reader

Before a person even books a session with a psychic it is important that they try to find out something about their reader. The best way to choose a good psychic reader and go about avoiding psychic fraud is by word of mouth.

Word of mouth has always been one of the most trusted ways of shopping and even in the psychic and paranormal fields it is by far the most dominant way of discovering a good professional psychic reader.

According to a Nielsen Internet survey, “Despite the ever expanding array of advertising platforms and sources, consumers around the world place their highest levels of trust in other consumers.”

People trust other people and the experiences they have had. When someone has a good psychic reading with a particular psychic it is likely that another person will also have a good psychic session too.

Questions to Ask a Psychic

Not everyone has friends that are into this field. The following questions can help you weed out the professional psychics from the non-professional psychics.

  • How long have they been in the field? Usually the longer the better, but do remember that everyone has to start somewhere.
  • Are they licensed? Several states require psychic to be licensed. In some locations they need an entertainment license in others they need an actual fortune telling license. These licenses are supposed to help prevent fraud. There are also several independent licensing/certification schools and groups.
  • Has the psychic attended school? It’s always a good idea to find out what, if any, formal training the psychic has received. Where they mentored by someone? Did they take classes? Do they teach classes? How long? A psychic that lacks formal training may still have great raw talent, but it does tend to be easier to trust those who can at least show some proof of what they’ve learned and where. Remember, word of mouth and reputation is very important in this field.
  • What is their psychic specialty? If someone is a palm reader don’t expect them to do a numerology reading. If someone is good at locating lost objects don’t expect them to give intuitive information on a love life. If someone says they channel, it would be wise to ask them what channeling is. Terminology is very tricky in the psychic field and what one person calls channeling may not be what another means when they say channeling.
  • Is it okay to see another psychic? A professional psychic should never have a problem with a person seeing another professional in the field. Sometimes a second opinion is good and other times another session with a different clairvoyant or psychic may uncover new or different information.

Be Safe – Don’t Believe Everything a Psychic Tells You

It’s always important to remember that nobody can (nor should they) totally and completely dictate life and what’s going to occur in the future. Psychic information should be used as “food for thought.” Psychic sessions can provide helpful and important insights to many of life’s situations and even help promote inner healing. It should not, however, be the only method that you use to make decisions in your life.

Additionally, when a person is in a real crisis situation, it’s far better to contact a professional doctor, lawyer, counselor, etc as opposed to relying solely on an intuitive reader. Likewise, if a person gets to the point of relying on a psychic before they make every day choices it’s quite possible that they need professional help of a different kind.

Why Don’t Psychic Predictions Always Come True?

Why don’t psychic predictions always come true?” The young lady was very frustrated by a recent session she had with another psychic. It was a question that was driving her crazy and one that I had thought a great deal about over the course of my career.

Psychic predictions unfortunately are not an exact science. A psychic reader and your own personal guides will do their best to provide information to you about what is coming up in the future as well as provide insights into past and present situations. However, that doesn’t mean that the information they provide will always, or even usually, be 100 percent accurate.

The Reality of a Psychic Reading

Think of a psychic doing a reading in this manner.

You are standing at a pathway in front of you. The path goes to the right and goes to the left. You can choose which direction you want to go. Based off your inner spirits past (both here and prior) you can be told which path you are likely to choose. You don’t have to choose that path. The likelihood is that you will choose it. You can always go against what is likely. You can always change your life, at any given time.

This is all easy enough to understand on the surface. Let’s get a little more complicated.

Let’s supposed that each path involves alternative realities that depend upon your mood. So if you go down the right path happy, one thing will happen, but if you go down that same path angry something else all together different will take place.

The same is true for the left path. We have now multiplied the variable. This makes the readers job suddenly a lot more complicated. They attempt to figure out which path you’ll choose and which mood you’ll choose to be in and thereby the results that come from it.

Let’s go even further. Suppose there is just one other person involved besides yourself. Then which path you choose may be different then the path they choose. The mood you opt to have, may be different from the mood they opt to have. Now we are looking at the possibility of 100s of different things that can occur all because of a path with two possible choices. Just think about what happens if there are three possible choices. Four. Five. Etc. Think of what happens when two or three people, even more, may be involved.

Psychic readings are not always accurate because a psychic is not God. Period. It’s impossible for any one human to take into account ALL variables that exist for any given situation and to conclude what is most likely to occur. Like it or not, all psychics are humans.

So readers do the best they can. They attempt to navigate all the probabilities and tell you what they believe to be most likely to occur. Sometimes they do this exceptionally well, other times they don’t. Some people it’s easier to do this with than others. The more free will a person has or that’s involved, the less likely a prediction is to come true. The more people involved, the less likely a prediction is to come true. The more choices involved, the less likely a prediction is to come true. There is, nor can there ever be, a guarantee.

This doesn’t even take into account random acts of the Universe. As those random acts can sometimes alter moods and paths too.

I believe H.P. Blavatsky said it best:

“In dealing with the dicta of psychics and mediums, it must always be remembered that they translate, automatically and unconsciously, their experiences on any plane of consciousness, into the language and experience of our normal physical plane. And this confusion can only be avoided by the special study-training of occultism, which teaches how to trace and guide the passage of impressions from one plane to another and fix them on the memory….” – H.P. Blavatsky Collected Writings, Vol. IX, 163

It takes a person much experience and practice to be able to take into account so many variables and end up making “accurate predictions” that actually occur in the physical world. If someone is right 80% of the time, they are a good reader. Regardless of what anyone may think. If they are correct 90% of the time they are a great reader. Nobody, will ever be 100 percent correct all the time. No reader will even be 100 percent correct for the same person each time.

As much as I’d hate to say this, a reader can be 98% accurate with one person and have zero or zip accuracy with another. This is all because of energy factors involved which are beyond the control of either the reader or the client.

A Soul Reader vs a Human Reader

There is also a difference between a reader that reads for the soul and an intuitive that reads for the human.

The soul reader interprets information from the soul’s higher perspective. A human reader interprets information from a physical world perspective. Most readers do both at various points and times, however, they are usually better at one form or another.

For example, I excel more with soul reading than human reading. I do better when looking at things from the soul’s perspective and the perspective of the higher self than I do with looking at things from the physical world perspective.

So if you want to know why your boyfriend didn’t call you, I likely won’t have a good answer for you. Even if I do, it’s not going to usually be something mundane. If you want to know, however, what you’re learning from the breakup and how you can use the information to make your life better – okay now we’re in business! Some may call a soul reader a life coach or a spiritual teacher, but regardless of what you call them, their purpose is to help you create your life and make it the best you can as opposed to allowing you to be controlled by your life.

That’s not to say I can’t or don’t make mundane predictions from time to time. I do. I just usually prefer to focus more on your growth as a soul as opposed to other thing.

Unlike some readers, this is what I consider my true purpose and calling to be. To help you become aware of the fact that you, and you alone, have control and a responsibly for making and creating the life you want, regardless of the obstacles that get in the way or the twists and turns that happen along the way.

A Medium vs a Psychic vs a Channel vs a Fortuneteller

Likewise, a medium and psychic are different. A channel and psychic are different. A clairvoyant and channel are different. A fortuneteller is different from all of the above. So many terms, and yet we still live in a society where most people group them all together as the same thing.

A medium specializes in connection with people that have died. They usually connect with the spiritual essence to pass along messages from them.

A psychic tries to work on their ability to make predictions in the manner described previously at the beginning of this article. Sometimes they do this through straight reading of a person’s energy and sometimes they do it through the use of tools like astrology, numerology, the runes, or tarot.

Not every psychic is a medium, but most mediums are psychics.

A channel passes along information from spiritual guides and angels usually without censoring it and regardless of if they personally agree with it or not.

Traditionally, a clairvoyant sees images with which they have no control over. Some are future visions, some are visions of the past, some are energy in the present. Once a clairvoyant gains control over this, however, they are usually called either a psychic, medium, or fortuneteller.

A fortuneteller makes predictions about the future typically based off of a tool such as tarot. However, not every tarot reader is a fortuneteller and not every fortuneteller reads tarot cards. I.E., fortunetellers approach life from the perspective that you have no control over the events which will take place, you simply have to live with them.

I personally can be a clairvoyant, medium, and psychic – but am typically best acting as a channel. I do not consider myself a medium because I don’t specialize in connecting with dead people. I am working constantly to try and become a better “psychic” or “intuitive.” My main goal, however, is to teach people how to do for themselves and to stop relying on outside sources for answers.

The Reality of Spiritual Guides

I hate to burst a bubble here, one that society has spent a lot of time building up and creating, but spirit guides aren’t all knowing either. They too were human at one time. They may have more experience than the people living in our world currently, but that doesn’t mean they are all knowing or even perfect.

Since they have more experience they are better at offering insights and wisdom for dealing with life and for figuring out what’s to come, but even they can and are at times wrong. They are learning just as much about life as you are, just from a different perspective.

So I tell people to take their information as food for thought. To understand that what may be right from their perspective may not always be right from your perspective nor should you follow what they tell you blindly without doing your own research and adding your own thoughts.

Your Energy Is Not My Energy, But Your Energy is Okay

The more tuned in to each other a psychic and a client are, the better and typically the more accurate a reading will be. Everyone knows that feeling when things just flow between two people. This happens because they are connecting on a very deep energy level.

Likewise, everyone is also aware of that feeling when two people just have a hard time being around each other. You don’t know what it is about the other person that you aren’t comfortable with, but something makes you not want to be around them. This happens when two people’s energies are a miss match and when they resonate in a specific way so as to repeal each other.

When a psychic and a client have this sort of connection, many times the psychic won’t get much information or if they do, they will interpret it wrong.

Most of the time, the energy connection between a psychic and client is okay. Not great, like the first mentioned connection, but nowhere near as bad as the second mentioned connection. In these cases, the psychic will get some accurate information and some not so accurate information or they will interpret some information correctly and other information not so correctly.

Wrong Day, Wrong Time, Wrong Channel

There are also those occasions when there is nothing there. Though this happens rarely, it does happen. When it does happen the psychic has an obligation to tell the client “Sorry, I’m not getting anything on that right now.” That doesn’t mean they won’t on another day or at another time, there’s just something in that moment that is preventing the information and/or insights from being accessed. The best thing to do is reschedule and try again at a later date and time.

The Bottom Line and Summary

You and you alone are in control of your life. People should get psychic sessions to help them weigh information and to open up new lines of thinking and possibilities that haven’t been seen before. People should not, however, get psychic readings believing everything they are told at face value.

The bottom line, a psychic reading should either be a fun, enlightening/educational, or healing experience. Perhaps all of the above if you’re lucky. Going to a psychic purely based on the hope that they can see all and tell you everything that’s going to happen is something which should be avoided.

Find a psychic you connect well with and that you gain a lot of insights from their sessions, regardless of their accuracy. When you start looking for that, the accuracy will end up being there.

How to Prepare Tarot Decks

When you bring home a deck of Tarot Cards from the store or someone has gifted you with a deck, it’s important to know and understand how to properly prepare that deck for use.

The cards themselves are not magical. They carry no supernatural power. They are not demon possessed or a direct conduit to God or anything else. They are simply cards. The same cards that have been used over the years in various games. While we may use them in divination today, they were never made for that purpose.

To prepare the deck is to put your own energy into it. In preparing tarot cards you are clearing and cleansing them of any past energy and then putting your own energy into them. It is only after this has been completed that the deck is ready to be used for divination or tarot reading.

There are, of course, some people that don’t follow the procedure outlined below to prepare their cards. This is their own choice. Most serious readers I have known, however, have prepared their deck prior to reading. They do this because of their own spiritual belief system. A belief system which holds that outside influences can impact the cards and tarot sessions as can a readers own energy.

Clearing and cleansing a deck of tarot cards is similar to praying over something. Assistance is being asked from a higher power to allow positive energy to surround the deck so that divination sessions may be an uplifting experience for all involved and so that only the most important, accurate, and needed information comes through. At the same time, this act also banishes negative energy.

Here are six of methods for preparing tarot cards for their first use.

 

Invocations and Prayers

This includes singing and chanting. Singing, chanting, prayers, and invocations have long been used to make a spiritual connection with something. Through the use of mantras, chants, songs, special words, or prayers one puts very important spiritual energy into the cards.

A simple prayer would be:

“In the name of (God/Goddess/Etc), I ask you to cleanse, clear, and protect these cards. In the name of (God/Goddess/Etc), I ask you to make these cards holy so that they may serve as a conduit for your light, love, and wisdom.”

This prayer is simple and effective and is similar to the one that I have been using for years.

Incense and Smudging

This is another popular method of preparing the tarot. Smudge sticks, typically made of sage, or burned and the smoke is used to bless and clear and the energy of the cards. No words or special thoughts are needed as it is believed the smoke itself brings about the energy change needed.

Popular incenses that can have a similar effect include:

  • Sandalwood
  • Patchouli
  • Cedar
  • Pine
  • Frankincense
  • Myrrh
  • Nag Champa

Both incense and smudging can be very powerful methods for preparing your deck.

Moonlight

The moon is considered by some to be very powerful. Since it is lunar in nature it connects with the feminine. The feminine is also strongly associated with intuition and psychic ability.

A simple way to charge and prepare your tarot cards is by placing them under a window where the moonlight is going to filer through. Many will tell you the full moon is the best time to do this and that the cards should be left there the night before, the night of, and the night after the full moon.

You’ll want to remove your cards prior to sunrise – again the purpose is for the cards to absorb the lunar energy.

Burying the Deck

Just as the moon is believed to contain a certain degree of “power” so to is it said the earth herself contains power. Many tarot students choose to bury their cards for one to three nights before using them. This is said to allow the energy of Mother Earth herself to penetrate deep into the deck.

If you are going to do this it is strongly suggested that you put your cards in a zip lock bag that is water resistant. This prevents moisture from getting to the cards as well as stops unwanted creatures from crawling all over the deck. The cards will still absorb the energy of Mother Earth, but you won’t have to worry about them being ruined.

Sleeping with the Cards

This is one of my favorites. To get your energy strongly connected with your cards try sleeping with them. Put them either right next to your bed on the nightstand or place them inside or under your pillowcase. Not only will you empower the cards with your own energy, but you’ll also empower them with dream time, astral, or non-ordinary reality energy.

Shuffling the Cards

Of course the simplest method of getting your energy into your tarot deck and making it your own is by shuffling the cards. Shuffling the cards helps to mix your energy with the cards. You’ll want to carry the deck around with you for a few days and shuffle every now and again. A popular way of doing this is to shuffle while watching your favorite TV show.

Some people like to combine methods and this is okay too. It’s all about what you choose to do to get your deck ready and what feels right to you.

 

Closing Remarks

A little preparation can go a long way in bringing in good energy and getting started on the right foot to good readings. While some people may consider these things religious, they don’t require the belief in a particular deity or any deity at all. Anyone of any faith or even no no faith can find ways to empower the Tarot before using it.

Many readers do this only once per deck. Some readers, like myself, also develop mini rituals to use in-between tarot sessions to help keep them clear, clean, and charged.

For example: When I first get a deck I usually do all of the above to help prepare and charged the deck. Before readings I also typically try to smudge myself, the room, and the deck to help keep the cards clear. I’ll also shuffle until the cards feel right prior to a session, especially if I’m doing a phone session or an email tarot reading.

If you enjoyed this article you may want to check out the other articles in my tarot series:

Simple Tarot Spreads

Let’s take a look at some of the simplest tarot spreads a tarot reader or student of the cards can use to practice building their reading and interpretation skills.

What is a Tarot Spread?

A spread is the way the cards are laid out on the table. It is the pattern that a reader uses to help them interpret the cards. Spreads can consist of one to 31+ cards. If you study astrology, the easiest way to think of a spread is that each card of a spread is similar to a house in a horoscope. Thus, spreads are man made.

While some spreads have been passed down over the years, it’s also important for a tarot reader to learn to create their own spreads. That is not what we are talking about here. In this article we are discussing some popular, easy to use, spreads that have been handed down over the years.

For a reader to be able to effectively read the cards they have to both understand the meanings of the cards in their upright and reversed position and they must learn how to relate the cards to the spread they are using.

A tarot student is generally ready to start using spreads as soon as they have learned the meanings of some of the cards. Obviously the larger the spread, the more cards a student should know.

For the simplest one card spreads one only needs to have mastered four cards to start use them. We do this in my tarot classes by teaching students the meaning of the four aces first, since they are so easy to learn. Essentially, all aces represent new beginnings. The type of new beginning depends on the suite of the ace.

Ace of Wands = New physical beginning or new sexual relationship.
Ace of Cups = New emotional beginning
Ace of Pentacles = New material, career, or spiritual beginning
Ace of Swords = New communication

When the aces are reversed the new beginning are still coming, they’re just being delayed

For two and three card spreads a student should know the aces and court cards before attempting them.

For six card spreads student should know the aces, court cards, and Major Arcana.

For larger spreads all cards should be known.

These are only guidelines. This is recommended for those who are starting to learn the cards. Most students try to learn all the cards at one time and that usually doesn’t work. When you break it down into sections – Aces, Court Cards, Majors, Minors – and practice while adding in a new section, you gain a better understanding and mastery over the cards as opposed to trying to learn them all in one shot.

Having said all that, here are some simple spreads that anyone can use in their tarot reading practice.

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Card of the Day – A One Card Spread

This one card spread is a great way to start your day. When you wake up you shuffle your cards and ask – “What is the most important thing I need to keep in mind today?” You draw a single card and interpret the card to learn what to watch for, pay attention to, or what lesson you’re learning for the day.

You can do this one card spread for yourself or another person.

 

This/That – A Two Card Spread

This spread is used when making a choice involving two different paths. You shuffle the cards then draw two cards. The first card represents what you need to know about the first choice and the second card represents what you need to know about the other choice.

As with the one card spread, this can easily be used for yourself or another person.

 

Yes/No – A Two Card Spread

This spread makes answering yes/no questions for yourself or a client easy. Draw two cards. The first card is laid on the table. The second card is laid directly under the first card. You now have a top and bottom card.

When both cards up upright the answer is yes. When both cards are reversed the answer is no. When the top card is upright and the bottom reversed the answer is yes, but. When the top card is reversed and the bottom card is upright the answer is no, but.

The cards can then be interpreted to provide the reasons for the answer. Typically the bottom card is more important to the interpretation than the top card, but both should be weighed equally.

 

Past/Present/Future – A Three Card Spread

This spread is best used on other people. You shuffle the cards or let them shuffle the cards. You or they then pick three cards. The first card represents the past and/or what lessons should have been learned from the past. The second card represents the present and what is going on or what needs to be learned in the here and now. The last card represents, provided nothing changes, where the client is headed and what the client needs to be aware of.

 

The Simple Cross – A Six Card Spread

The simple cross is a shorter moderated variation of the famous and most often used Celtic Cross spread. Shuffle the cards. Cut the cards. Either you or your client may do this and choose the cards.

Card one goes in the center of the table. This card represents either the client or what’s one the client’s mind.

Card two is laid vertically right on top of card one. This card represents the major obstacle the client should currently be working on to overcome.

Card three is laid above cards one and two. This card represents what is coming in the distant future, usually within the next one to three years provided nothing changes.

Card four is laid below cards one and two. This card tells us what major life lesson the client should have learned or is learning.

Card five is laid to the right of cards one and two. This card indicates what the past has been like and/or what aspects of the past needs to be kept in mind.

Card six is laid to the left of cards one and two. This card reveals what is coming in the near future or within six months, provided nothing changes.

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Now that you’ve learned some easy tarot layouts you may want to view information on the court cards, keywords for the major arcana, and keywords for the minor arcana.

You could also check out tarot reading basics and study tools for tarot students.

The Health Benefits of Common Herbs

herbsHerbs and spices are many times used to add flavor to food. For a long time, however, they were also used for their medicinal qualities. Let’s take a look at some common herbs and spices and the health benefits that are associated with them.

Please note: This article is not coming from a magickal or metaphysical perspective. It is purely being explored from the viewpoint of how these herbs and spices can influence health.

Before we get into the individual herbs, realize that all the herbs in this article are believed to be powerful antioxidants. This means they are believed to help remove potentially damaging oxidizing agents and protect from such things as cancer and coronary heart disease.

Another way to think of it is that when our cells use oxygen they generate free radicals. These free radicals are by-products or what is left over. Free radicals can cause damage to our cells. Damage to our cells can cause a host of medical problems. In essence, an antioxidant hunts down and destroys free radicals as well as repair the damage which they have done.

So let’s look at some of these antioxidant herbs and see what other health benefits they are believed offer and if those beliefs appear to be valid or not.

  • Basil
  • Chili
  • Cilantro
  • Dill
  • Garlic
  • Ginger
  • Lemongrass
  • Marjoram
  • Oregano
  • Parsley
  • Rosemary
  • Thyme

basil

Basil is believed to help decrease inflammation. For those who don’t know, this is when a part of the body becomes swollen, red, or hot because of an injury or infection.

It is also said to help with acne, mental fatigue, head colds, gas, and kidney disorders. None of this has been proven clinically.

It’s normally added to Asian or Mediterranean foods.

ChiliChili peppers are sometimes called capsicum. It is well known that the fruit of the capsicum plant is used to make medicine.

It has been proven to reduce the pain associated with rheumatoid arthritis, shingles, and diabetes when applied to the skin where the pain is located. It also has shown to be effective in helping back pain and fibromyalgia. Cluster headaches and runny noses have also successfully been treated with Chili peppers.

Though not proven, some say it can aid in weight management. They go well with Asian, Mediterranean, African, and Latin inspired cuisines.

corianderCilantro is also called coriander. Much research still needs to be done in order to understand the impacts of Cilantro on health.

Some claim that it serves as an excellent digestive aid and helps with constipation and irritable bowel syndrome. Others believe it can help prevent gas, diarrhea, and even measles. None of these haven been proven clinically.

It goes well with Asian, Middle Eastern, Latin, and Mexican style cuisines.

dillDill is said to be an antimicrobial. It is believed to help colds, fevers, coughs, bronchitis, and sore throats. None of this, however, has been clinically proven.

Dill is also believed to help with gas, urinary tract problems, liver problems, and gallbladder problems, Again, these claims have not yet been proven in clinical testing.

Mediterranean and American style cuisines are the best places to add dill.

garlicGarlic is said to lower cholesterol and blood pressure. In fact, it’s estimated that people with high blood pressure can reduce their blood pressure by as much as 8% by consuming garlic daily.

Garlic can prevent cerebral aging and blood clotting. It’s also well known for its ability to boost the immune system. Additionally, research indicates that garlic may be effective for reducing the risk for colon, rectal, and stomach cancer.

It is used throughout the world and can be added to most styles of food.

gingerGinger is believed to be an anti-emetic (prevents vomiting), antimicrobial (destroys pathogenic microorganisms), and anti-inflammatory (reduces inflammation) herb. It is also said to boost the immune system. .

Since it is an anti-emetic, Ginger is believed to help reduce nausea and vomiting as well as dizziness. Additionally, ginger can help relieve the pain associated with menstrual cramps and arthritis.

In Ayurvedic medicine ginger is considered to be a universal therapeutic. It is typically found in Asian inspired food

LemongrassNot a lot is known about the healing properties of lemongrass and much research still needs to be done.

Lemongrass is said to have anti-cancer properties. It also said to act as an anti-inflammatory. It further is believed to help with stomach spasm and high blood pressure. None of these have been tested though.

Lemongrass goes well with Asian style cuisine and most seafood.

MajoramMarjoram is said to be antimicrobial. As such, it is believed to help with coughs, colds, runny noses, stomach cramps, and colic. It is also said to be useful in helping with gallstones, headaches, diabetes, relieving menopause and nerve pain. None of this has been yet proven in clinical testing.

Early clinical testings does, however, indicate that Marjoram may be effective in helping people to improve lung functioning.

Marjoram is typically found in Mediterranean, African, Middle Eastern, and American style food.

oreganoOregano is said to be antimicrobial. As such it is believed to help with coughing, the flu, and headaches. It is also believed to help with hemophilia and healing wounds. None of these have been proven in clinical testing.

It has, however, shown clinically to be helpful with high cholesterol and in killing intestinal parasites.

Oregano is often found in Mediterranean style cuisines.

parsleyParsley is said to be an antimicrobial. It is believed to help with coughing, digestive problems, urinary tract problems, menstrual cramps, liver disorders, and asthma. None of this has yet to be proven in clinical testing.

Parsley is also supposed to help with kidney stones, bruises, tumors, cracked skin, and insect bites. Again, this has not been proven clinically.

Parsley is found in cuisines throughout the world.

rosemaryRosemary is believed to be an anti-carcinogen and anti-inflammatory. It is additionally said to inhibit bone resorption. It is also said to be useful in helping with gas, indigestion, gout, cough, headache, toothaches, and high blood pressure. None of these have yet to be proven clinically.

Early clinical trials suggests that rosemary may be helpful in improving hair loss when the essential oil is applied to the scalp. There is also some early evidence to suggest that Rosemary can help improve the quality of memory in healthy adults. Additionally, there is some evidence that this herb will help decrease pain associated with arthritis.

It is often added to Mediterranean style food.

thymeThyme is said to inhibit bone resorption. It is also believed to help with agitation, ear infections, tonsil inflammation, sore throats, and bad breath. These claims have not been proven in clinical testing.

What has been proven is that Thyme is great for improving the symptoms associated with bronchitis including coughing and fever. Coughing associated with colds and upper respiratory infections also seems to decrease with the use of Thyme. This herb, in essential oil form, has even been proven to help with hair loss when applied to the scalp.

Thyme is typically added to Mediterranean style foods.

Remember, to consult your doctor, a good homeopathic practitioner, or someone knowledgeable in herbs before attempting any sort of major treatment of yourself with them. Adding these herbs and spices to foods, however, should be fine for most healthy adults.

Your Moon Sign – The Emotional You

full-moon

In astrology, the astrological sign that the moon was moving through on the day and time of birth is said to represent how you respond emotionally to the world. This is typically a person’s way of immediately emotionally reacting to the world.

Many people also forget that the sign the moon falls in can indicate how the family, in early childhood, influenced the person and the attitudes that one learned from the family.

  • Aries
  • Taurus
  • Gemini
  • Cancer
  • Leo
  • Virgo
  • Libra
  • Scorpio
  • Sagittarius
  • Capricorn
  • Aquarius
  • Pisces

ariesEmotionally impulsive – this is the general characteristic of someone with a moon in Aries. Many have tempers which they try to pretend don’t actually exist. On the bright side, their tempers are short lived and don’t last long.

Those with an Aries moon will, under normal circumstances, be extremely independent and prefer to do things on their own. There is also a tendency to want to do the opposite of what other people want them to do just to prove they don’t have to listen to others!

It’s not uncommon for those born with their moon in this placement to not think about consequences to their actions before putting those actions into motion. Many must be allowed to learn life lessons the hard way for there is an almost unconscious tendency to believe their way is the only right way for them.

taurusWhen it comes to people who have moon in Taurus, emotional stability can only be gained after financial security. When finances are weak there are often a great many fears and their ability to connect emotionally with others tends to be limited.

Having said this, most Taurus moon people tend to be solid and emotionally stable, not flying easily off the handle or allowing even major problems to upset them to greatly. Many are also blessed with a strong level of common sense. They tend to be stable workers once they have begun a project – many times tirelessly seeing it through to completion, though they may sometimes need the help of others to actually start new projects.

Rarely, but on occasion, some Taurus moon people will be lazy and want others to do all the work for them while they sit back and “supervise.” Likewise, sometimes those with a moon in Taurus can be very dogmatic and unwilling to change their beliefs at any cost.

geminiThe emotions in Gemini moon people tend to change rapidly and often. They can go through multiple emotions in mere seconds and the way they feel about something can change several times over the course of a few days. They are not always aware when they are doing these things.

So, for example, a person with a Gemini moon may tell you they hate Pizza only to suggest later that you all go get Pizza. They may profess their love to someone only to tell their best friend later how much they despise that person.

People with a Gemini moon tend to enjoy talking…. a lot. They also typically will try to rationalize their emotions. Many will be perceived by others as being either very busy or as very nervous. A few people with this placement will come across as being flaky, easily confused, or highly superficial.

cancerPeople born with a Cancer moon tends to have very powerful emotions and emotional reactions. Most will have problems with a Mother figure at some point in their life and many will feel as though they have been orphaned or abandoned by someone important to them.

These people can be overly sensitive and it’s not uncommon for them to get their feelings hurt very easily. When hurt, they are prone to pouting. The same emotional sensitivity that results in hurt feelings allow these natives to posses an almost psychic like insight into the true motivations and feelings of others.

Cancer moon people are some of the most loving, caring, and nurturing people you can ally yourself with, though they are at their best after they have entered into a secure marriage and own their own home. Sometimes they can come across as smothering, clingy, or “always looking over your shoulder,” but it’s typically done out of concern, love, and care.

leoThe people with moon in Leo need to be in the spotlight. Most every Leo moon individual has an inner desire to seek attention, appreciation, or admiration from others and/or to stand out in a crowd. These people somehow always tend to become the center attraction, even when they try not to!

Romance is very important to these moon born people. They like to get caught up in romantic evenings, movies, meetings, and fun games of coy or cat and mouse flirtation. The Leo moon isn’t always interested in following through after they’ve had their romance, but they almost always know and understand when they are in fact flirting with others. For them, it’s about having fun and making themselves and someone else feel good. It’s typically not about being serious.

Children tend to eventually become very important to every Leo moon born person. It’s not uncommon for them to want multiple children and it’s very rare if they don’t want at least one. They will tend to be very proud of their children and show them off often. Likewise, they can be overly protective of the kids they are responsible for.

virgoHardworking and practical are the keywords for those who have their moon in Virgo. This individuals typically make great friends and they are capable of helping others to see the practical side to what is going on or where one is thinking about going. They must, however, learn to be careful of perfectionism tendencies as this can serve to hold them back in life. Additionally, those with this moon placement must be careful not to become overwhelmed by all the little details.

Some Virgo moon people can be shy, very introverted, or dislike having to deal with people. Most prefer to do their work without drawing attention to themselves or what they are doing. Many try to avoid asking personal questions figuring if someone wants to share their personal life they will, but otherwise it’s none of their business.

Individuals with a Virgo moon will many times have tendency to be hyper critical of how others act if it doesn’t match up with their perception on how one should act and behave. While they many times won’t come right out and criticize or tell a person how they feel, it may color the way they choose to interact with that person in the future.

libraPeople with their moon in Libra can many times allow the emotions, feelings, and behaviors of their friends, bosses, co-workers, and romantic partners to influence them. It is for this reason that the Libra moon person can appear to have an almost psychic like connection to these people – responding to them as they need to long before they are asked or required to. On the negative side, this sometimes can lend to the Libra moon person becoming dependent on these people.

Libra moon individuals usually are not capable of handling disharmony and go out of there way not to “rock the boat” or to “Fix things” and “make up.” When a person with a Libra moon finds themselves around a lot of disharmony it is not uncommon for them to develop health related issues.

Most people with a Libra moon are excellent at interacting and working with the public. They tend to understand diplomacy and have a talent for using it to their advantage, especially to cool and improve hostile situations. They often times desire social status and will go to any measures necessary to climb the social ladder and be seen as “important.”

scorpioMoon in Scorpio represents people who are either willful or biased. As children they tend to be very disobedient or stubborn in their ways and they usually aren’t much better as adults. Like most water signs, there is also a tendency to take things personally. Unlike other water signs, the Scorpio moon is more inclined to seek revenge or retaliation for those perceived hurts.

Many people with a Scorpio moon have an inner need and desire to dominant and control others on a very subtle level. So, for example, they won’t tell you that you can’t go out, but they may make finding the keys to the car very difficult. They won’t tell you that you have to do what they want, but if you don’t they may find a way to “punish” you for not doing so.

The person with a Scorpio moon knows and understands the importance of sacrifice. If the sacrifice in the long run will get them what they want, there is never a sacrifice that is to great for them.

sagittariusLooking for someone positive and upbeat? Need someone in your life who tends to see the good and not the bad? If so, you need to find someone who has their moon in Sagittarius. These people sometimes are so positive that it can become annoying after a while!

Sagittarius moon born people need a good deal of travel and diverse cultures in order for them to feel at their best. When feeling at their best they are apt to do anything which those whom they consider to be their friends require of them.

Sometimes this moon placement will lead to narrow mindedness arrogance, and an inability to be objective. At the bare minimal, it’s not uncommon for these individuals to be attached to an unwavering philosophy or religion which colors their way of interacting with the world.

capricornIt’s not uncommon for people with a Capricorn moon to be come across as cold or uncaring. While this may or may not be true, it is true that there is a tendency for them to be reserved and cautious about opening up or sharing information and their inner emotional state with others.

Ambitious and hard working, many with a Capricorn moon tend to be emotionally influenced most by money, status, or career. This typically occurs because of an inner feeling of a lack of worth or a desire to prove themselves to someone.

People with a moon in Capricorn normally have trouble having fun and allowing themselves to enjoy the simple pleasures of life. They are great, however, at being a solid rock for others as they typically don’t allow the emotional states of other people to influence them or drag them down.

aquariusThere is an ability to understand humanity and what humanity needs. Many Aquarius moon people are friendly but in an impersonal sort of way. They may chat with you about a variety of topics or even strike up a conversation with you out of the blue, but that doesn’t mean they want to be emotionally tied to you, responsible for you, or obligated to help you. Many can come across as flirtatious without meaning to.

There is a need for the freedom to be able to express the self emotionally however they choose to do so. To not allow them this freedom or to block it in any way is to risk offending the Aquarius moon individual. If this means they want to pout and throw a temper tantrum, they must be allowed to do so. If they want to sulk, it shouldn’t be interrupted. However they want to express themselves, they need people in their lives who will allow them to do so in their own way.

Many fear becoming emotionally involved with other people due to past hurts or trauma and stubbornness is also not uncommon. Many also refuse to commit to another out of fear of loosing or having their freedom restricted. Further more, many feel as though they are the “black sheep” of the family regardless of if this is really true or not.

piscesPeople with moon in Pisces tend to be extremely sensitive. There is a tendency to pick up “psychic” impressions from others and to “absorb” the emotional mood of the people they are around. They would do well to study some form of energy or psychic protection in order to learn their true emotions vs the ones they pick up from others.

Many people with this placement find themselves feeling psychologically vulnerably and will retreat to isolation or solitude to protect themselves if their feelings get hurt. They are unlikely to seek out other people, instead having an expectation that “if they really care they’ll come to me.”

A vivid imagination, strong sympathy and empathy, and a tendency to guilt trip themselves or others are common traits of these moon born individuals. Many are good at arts, crafts, drama, theater, music, and/or design.

If you enjoyed reading about your moon sign you should also consider checking out the information on your sun sign.

Your Sun Sign – What You’re Learning

Soul Astrology ReadingIn Western astrology, the astrological sign your sun was in at the date of your birth is considered one of the three most important factors in interpreting the natal or birth chart. The other two are the sign the moon was in and the sign that was ascending on the eastern horizon at the time and location of birth. Of these, the sun sign has always been considered the most important.

Many people are taught to read their sun sign from the perspective of “This is what I’m like or supposed to be like.” I personally was not taught to read the sun sign in that manner.

When I was studying and learning astrology, I was always taught that the sun sign represents the ultimate lessons a person was born into this life to learn. Thus, if one is born as a Scorpio they are learning to be a Scorpio or they are learning Scorpio lessons. They may or may not actually act or behave like one.

In fact, the sign mars is in at the time of a person’s birth is more of an indication of what a person is actually like. With that being said, here is what I was taught each sun sign is learning in their life.

  • Aries
  • Taurus
  • Gemini
  • Cancer
  • Leo
  • Virgo
  • Libra
  • Scorpio
  • Sagittarius
  • Capricorn
  • Aquarius
  • Pisces

ariesARIES

Aries is cardinal, positive polarity, fire sign.

The Aries native is learning to focus on and think only about themselves in this life time. If you ever meet an Aries that behaves selfishly you should smile and remind yourself that they are doing exactly what they are supposed to be doing in this life. Sadly, there are many Aries natives that forget that this time was supposed to be about them learning to focus on themselves.

Aries natives are also learning to be competitive and goal-oriented. Nothing comes easy for the Aries. They must learn to compete and set their standards high if they are to achieve.

Finally, the Aries native is learning to be both physically and mentally active and to exercise both faculties often. Aries needs both physical and mental stimulation. Without both of them the Aries native will usually find themselves falling into destructive habits or patterns.

taurusTAURUS

Taurus is a fixed, negative polarity, earth sign.

A Taurus native is learning to take things slow in this life. They are learning that the best approach is a methodical one. They are learning that anything that truly matters requires time.

A Taurus will also be learning how to cultivate their organization ability. They will discover that the more organized they are the better life seems to flow for them.

Learning to find and stay true to their personal values is another important Taurus lesson. Many Taurus people find themselves in situations where they end up being forced to question their values. This life, for them, is all about learning what values are most important to them and then sticking to those values. In this light, the Taurus is also learning that it’s okay to be stubborn and tenacious, especially when it comes to those things which are most important to them.

geminiGEMINI

Gemini is a mutable, positive polarity, air sign.

Virtually every Gemini is learning to overcome communication problems and fears in their life. Most of them are forced to learn this lesson early in life, though for a few the lesson follows them all throughout their life. Additionally, it’s not uncommon for the Gemini native to be forced to learn both the importance of talking and listening and when which is appropriate.

Gemini people are also learning to be versatile and to go with the flow. They are discovering in this life the importance of change and not fighting it. They are also learning not to view things in black and white, but rather gray.

Gemini needs to learn in this life both how to focus their mind on their objectives as well as how to handle things on their own. Additionally, many will learn the importance of alone time, introversion, and privacy.

cancerCANCER

Cancer is a cardinal, negative polarity, water sign.

Cancer is primarily learning how to deal appropriately with insecurity in this life. Most Cancer people will have one or more major insecurities that they are forced to deal with. In the process of doing this the Cancer native is also learning to know when it’s time to quit and move on as well as how and when to let go of the past. If that wasn’t enough, almost all Cancer born individuals must learn how to handle and deal with the many emotions that they experience in a positive and constructive manner.

Cancer also came into this world to learn about nurturing. As such, the majority of Cancer born people will find that they end up having to take care of another, perhaps many others, at some point and time. Cancer must learn, however, that they are not possibly able to help and care for everyone they come across.

Finally, the Cancer native has come into this world to learn how to put their creative talents and abilities to good use. This is especially true when it comes to their home environment.

leoLEO

Leo is a fixed, positive polarity, fire sign.

Leo is born into this life to learn about family. They are specially learning the importance of being proud of the things they do and being proud of the people they choose to align themselves with. With this comes the importance of learning about, creating, or embracing traditions.

Leo natives are all here to learn about leadership and being leaders. The sooner they learn to step into the spotlight and embrace leadership roles, the better life tends to become for them. They have to understand, however, that not everyone will act in accordance to their personal values and beliefs, but that doesn’t mean those people aren’t important or useful.

For the Leo, a big part of their lesson in this life is knowing when and how to both give and receive love. They are also learning the importance of devotion to either a particular person or cause. This is all on top of the lessons surrounding their creative energy and potential.

virgoVIRGO

Virgo is a mutable, negative polarity, earth sign.

The main and most important lesson that Virgo is here to learn revolves around criticism and discrimination. They are learning just how sharp the tongue can actually be and when to be critical of both themselves as well as other people. Likewise, they are learning to discriminate between what is really important and what isn’t. With these lessons also comes the importance of learning to avoid extremism in all forms.

Most all Virgos are learning how to think analytically and be logical in this life. They are learning that it’s okay to be doubtful of others and it’s okay to not trust everyone they come into contact with.

Every Virgo comes into this life to learn about service. Learning how to be of service to others and the importance of doing service are key Virgo lessons that can’t be ignored. Likewise, every Virgo will have to deal with health related stuff in life. For some this may mean becoming a nurse, doctor, or working in a hospital. For others it may involve having to overcome a major illness or having to take care of someone with such an illness.

libraLIBRA

Libra is a cardinal, positive polarity, air sign.

Libra was born into this life to primarily learn to be social and relate to other people. Learning to belong tends to be an important lesson for Libra born individuals too. With all this focus on being social it’s no surprise that Libra people are also learning to be mediators for and between people.

The Libra native is also learning about personal balance in this life. It’s very important for Libra to learn to find balance. It’s also very important for Libra to learn the difference between keeping things in balance and avoiding conflict. When Libra avoids conflict they typically find themselves being held back.

Many people born into the Libra sun sign will find that they have to deal with one or more co-dependent relationships in their life. This typically is a sub lesson connected to the previously mentioned not avoiding conflict lesson.

Perhaps the hardest lesson for Libra, however, revolves around learning to disassociate from their emotions. Libra eventually must learn that in order to make certain effective decisions and in order to take certain effective actions there must be a disconnection from their emotions and their worry about what other people will think of them. Along with this lesson comes a lesson involving learning to think things through before making decisions. Libra must learn, however, that they can’t sit on things too long – that the longer they wait to make a decisions the more opportunity they may end up missing out on.

scorpioSCORPIO

Scorpio is a fixed, negative polarity, water sign.

Scorpio is known as the most sexual of all signs. In truth, the majority of people born with a Scorpio sun sign will learn about sex, sexuality, sexual taboos, and sexual problems as they live life in the physical world. Sex, after all, is one of the most powerful and intense expressions of emotion that a person can be engaged in. Scorpio is learning that sex is never “just sex”, that there is always something more powerful and deeper going on.

Like Cancer, almost all Scorpio born people will have to learn to deal with intense and heavy emotions in a constructive manner. Many Scorpios will learn about abuse and the darker side of humanity at some point and time in their life. They are learning to understand this side of humanity and to still have hope for a better world. They are learning that they bare some degree of responsibility in helping other people and the world to change.

Scorpio must learn not to obsess over things. They also have to learn to take their intuition seriously and learn how and when to use it to both help others and make decisions. Scorpio born people are also learning to help other people see their strong and weak points. They are here to learn how to help people capitalize on their strengths and overcome their weaknesses.

It’s not uncommon for Scorpio born natives to have a knack for business – many are learning about power and control in this life. Many are also learning when and how to keep secrets as well as how and when to manipulate others into helping them achieve their vision of the greater good. Likewise, most Scorpios are also learning that there are times when they must give up control to another.

sagittariusSAGITTARIUS

Sagittarius is a mutable, positive polarity, fire sign.

A Sagittarius born person is primarily focusing on overcoming prejudice and injustice. At some point in their life they’ll be called to stand up for another person, the underdog, or those who are just different then them. Additionally, many Sagittarius natives have to learn to see and focus on the positive in the world while not dwelling on the negative.

Sagittarius has to learn when to work hard and when to be lazy. Many struggle with overcoming lazy tendencies as there is a deep desire to enjoy life and have fun. This desire to enjoy life and have fun is the very same desire that forces them to learn how to be flirtatious and playful with others. Likewise, there is also a need to learn to explore and investigate other countries and cultures.

Sagittarius must also learn that it’s okay to be idealistic and philosophical. Most will have to spend extra time in their life in their educational pursuits or being involved in education. Many will be forced to deal with or overcome “father” issues at some point in their life, though not always associated with their own biological father.

capricornCAPRICORN

Capricorn is a cardinal, negative polarity, earth sign.

Those people born into the sun sign Capricorn will find that their most important lessons will revolve around the importance of family and family connections. Capricorns will need to learn how to separate their work life from their family life. Many Capricorns are meant to learn about the role of parenting in this life time and this plays out sometimes in their day to day life with their friends who they end up learning to “mommy/father” in some manner.

Career tends to be the second most important thing to those native to this sign. They must learn to dedicate themselves to a career that provides to them the material and financial support and comfort they need and want in their lives. Additionally, it’s not uncommon for Capricorn people to have to learn from a very early age to be both responsible and serious for others.

Respect is a keyword when it comes to Capricorn. They are here to learn about the importance of both respect others, especially those above them or that holds authority over them, and they are here to learn how to gain respect and admiration from others.

Capricorns must also learn that it’s okay to want and seek power and prestige provided they don’t try to cheat the system. These individuals must learn to follow and obey the rules else they tend to have to start over from the bottom again.

aquariusAQUARIUS

Aquarius is a fixed, positive polarity, air sign.

Those people born into the Aquarius sun sign are mainly learning that it’s okay to be different from everyone else. It’s okay to be unique and to express themselves in unique and unusual ways. To do this they typically will also learn the importance of being stubborn.

Aquarius born natives are here to learn the importance of being practical and yet intellectually creative. They eventually also must learn to withhold judgment. Along with their intellectual creativity, there is a need to learn to be curious and to figure out what makes things or even other people tick.

Many people born into this sign are also going to spend a good deal of time learning to focus on the greater good of the world. Humanitarian or volunteer efforts would not be uncommon. Despite this, Aquarius is not here to learn to focus on emotions. In fact, most must learn to avoid becoming emotionally attached to others as well as learn when to move on and find something else to put their curiosity and attention into.

piscesPISCES

Pisces is a mutable, negative polarity, water sign.

The most important lesson for people born into the sun sign Pisces is to learn how to effectively deal with guilt. These individuals have to learn not to feel guilty about everything that goes wrong and, more importantly, not to use excessive guilt tripping with others.

Pisces born people also have to learn not to let fear hold them back. Many will find themselves working on overcoming some variation of paranoia in their life. Once they learn to blend in and trust others they typically find that they have to deal less with fears.

Like all the water signs, Pisces must learn how to handle their emotions constructively. It’s important for them to learn to share their emotional nature with others and to trust both their empathy and intuitive ability.

Interestingly, most Pisces come into the physical world to learn to combine the spiritual with the physical. Flexibility in their belies and who they align themselves with is an important part of their growth process.

If you enjoyed reading this you may want to check out information on the element (Earth, Air, Fire, Water) of your sun sign, which also impacts personality and the life lessons that are being learned. Likewise, if you know what sign your moon is in you may want to check out information on your moon sign.

Making “Right” Decisions

“It’s important to always trust yourself. Your own intuition, feelings, and thoughts will always be more important than what you hear from anyone else.” — John Culbertson

Making "Right" Decision

A question that eventually many of my new clients end up asking is “How do I know, when faced with a major and important choice, which direction is right or wrong? How do I figure out what is the best choice for me ?”

These are very important questions to ask. Nobody wants to make the wrong choice, feel like they’ve wasted precious time and life or, even worse, find themselves dealing with some sort of pain. In fact, the majority of us would rather make the right decision the first time around. We’ll talk more about this idea of “the right decision” in a few moments. First, I want to point out the process of making good decisions.

What I tell people when they ask me these questions is simply to trust themselves. When individuals follow their own intuition and inner voices, more often then not they end up making the choices that are best for them. When people allow other people to deeply influence them without taking time to figure things our for themselves, more often then not they end up regretting the decisions and choices they make.

Regret is the real problem here.The only true bad decisions that people make in life are the ones which cause them to have feelings of regret later. Choosing to feel regret, however, is a matter of choice too. In fact, most who deeply follow a spiritual path eventually learns that all emotions are products of the thinking human mind. For the beginners out there, however, it’s far better to not even worry about this concept right now. Instead, it’s most important to focus on making decisions which, when you look back, you in your current state of being at the time of making a decision will not regret.

TECHNIQUES FOR MAKING GOOD DECISIONS

There’s an old NLP trick that many therapist commonly use. In it, you are asked to imagine yourself alone in an elevator. Each floor represents a different choice that can be made. Sometimes there may be only two floors and other times there could be four, five, or even more. Now, as you imagine yourself standing alone in that elevator, which floor do you find yourself most wanting to get off on? Which floor, when the elevator door opens, makes you feel the best or smile the most? There’s a good chance that’s your answer.

Another popular method for making good decisions revolves around the pro and con weight analysis test. In this, you take a piece of paper and divide it into half. One half you label pros and the other half cons. You may need more than one sheet of paper depending on the choice that is being made. You consider what action you want to take, allowing yourself time to visualize what life would be like if that action was taken. Then you write the potential and possible pros of taking that action in the pros column and the potential and possible cons in that column. When you are finished, you weigh them and see if the pros outweigh the cons. You may want someone else’s help in suggesting possible pros and cons.

Likewise, in a similar manner a consequence analysis can be used prior to making a decision. In this method, you simply ask what is the worst that could happen if I make that decision and am I willing to deal with that consequence.

TECHNIQUES ONLY GET YOU SO FAR

These techniques, though all good and useful, at some point eventually become mute facts. In truth, when people truly follow their inner voices or their gut intuition they typically find themselves okay with whatever happens. They understand that no matter what happens, they did what was best for them. As a result, they are immediately filled with a sense of inner peace.

I also often tell my advanced students that from a deep spiritual perspective there truly are no wrong decisions in life. There are just good and not so good ways of dealing with the results and outcomes of those decisions. Now, grant it, some will enjoy having a philosophical argument with me at this point – to which I indulge with them. Even so, I believe firmly that every decision we make, on a soul level, helps us to grow, learn, and evolve.That doesn’t mean in the physical world that those decisions were “right” by the standards of society or the value and belief system of others. That doesn’t mean that in the physical world there are not consequences for making those decisions. It does mean, however, that we as humans can not ever possibly know the deepest soul aspects of another nor their purpose in life nor what they are or were supposed to be learning in this life. We can, and often do, judge others based on what we know and believe, but we can’t know with certainty what contracts they had formed on a soul level before coming into this world.

Typically what makes up the core of a bad decision is when a person ends up going against their inner voice or gut level feelings. It is when a person chooses to disregard their own values, beliefs, or moral compass. As such, it becomes important for people to constantly evaluate their own values, morality, and beliefs and make changes to them when necessary.

UNIVERSAL MORALITY

At this point it never fails. Someone brings up the fact that there surely must be a universal morality. That, for example, killing someone is always wrong no matter what you believe. Many people are surprised to find that I disagree with the concept of universal morality. Some people believe that there are certainly some actions, such as murder, which are universally wrong. Again, however, we can not know the deeper purpose or reason behind what is done.

Let’s take Judas from Christianity as an example. Judas is often painted as the bad guy in Christian theology. He betrayed Jesus Christ, the son of God. Only an evil person would dare do that. Anyone that betrays another becomes nicknamed “A Judas.” This stigma has followed him for centuries, and from the Christian perspective, rightfully so.

Likewise, the Romans and others who were responsible for the death of Jesus often times get cursed as well. However, Christians have a firm belief that Jesus came into the physical world to die for our sins so that we don’t have to suffer eternal death, rather we can enjoy the joys of Heaven and immortality because Jesus died on the Cross.

It’s not hard to see the problem here. Jesus had to die on the Cross for Christians to be saved. If he would not have died on the cross Christians would not, by their own claims, be capable of accessing Heaven. As such, Judas’s betrayal, and the actions of those who killed Christ, though seemingly evil, may have been the greatest act of love ever. He had to betray Jesus and they had to kill him for the events to unfold that would allow Jesus to fulfill his destiny and save all who believe in him from their sins. Thus, theoretically, Judas and the Romans should be viewed as a heroes, not as an evil bastards who are the lowest form of scum to ever live.

Do you understand the point? Do you see how, as humans, we can judge people based on certain selected beliefs and still not understand the greater purpose that these acts may be serving?

Christians, or those who believe in Jesus Christ, took a horrible situation and turned it into something which they consider to be great – in this case an entire religion which would come to dominate the known physical world.

There are other examples that could be used, but the one just mentioned is perhaps the easiest to understand and see.

Universal morality is only universal when it meets certain conditions (thus, in essence, not making it truly universal) as set by the person deeming it to be “universal.” What we in the U.S. may believe to be universal in morality may not be so in some tribal culture in the Amazon. Does that make that culture wrong? Only from our U.S. perspective, not from their tribal perspective.

Does this mean I would ever murder someone? Not at all. In fact, in this life I was blessed with a spirit that holds the belief that most all forms of killing is wrong. I can’t say if I would still feel that way if, for example, I was born in the Middle East instead of Missouri. I cant say if I would still feel that way if I was raised Islamic instead of Christian. I can’t say if I would still feel that way if someone in my family had been murdered in cold blood and I wanted to feel a sense of justice or revenge. I am the way I am because certain circumstances and events played out in my life that helped to shape and create who I am. The same is true for all people.

Likewise, however, I try very hard to not judge the apparent “evil” actions of some people in our world. I don’t know what their journey is or the deeper reasons behind that journey. Perhaps in their apparent evil, as horrible as it may be, something good and greater will come as a result of it. Some people commit what are considered to be evil acts by others when in their own mind those acts were meant to be good. That doesn’t make it “right” from anyone else’s perspective.

THE BEAUTY OF LIVING IN OUR WORLD

Besides learning to trust in yourself it’s equally important to have a few good friends whom you can turn to. People that you can bounce ideas and thoughts off of and who can offer to you new, different, or alternative viewpoints and understandings based on their own cultural identity and the experiences they have had in life.

Understand, however, that these people are not more important than your own inner voices, thoughts, beliefs, and feelings. They may help supplement them, but they should not totally act as a substitute or replacement for them. Rather, you must eventually reach a point where the decisions you make are your own and you’re willing to deal with the consequences of those decisions, for “good” or “bad.”

One of the reasons people sometimes use a psychic adviser, spiritual counselor, therapist, or life coach is to have another viewpoint. These individuals provide to others a trusted person with whom they can bounce those thoughts, ideas, values, and beliefs off of knowing that they’ll either receive apparent validation or new ideas, insights, and understandings. For some people there is far more value to having someone available and in their corner that won’t judge them, but who will offer their own spiritually unique perspective and insights.

Should I See a Psychic?

Spiritual Teacher  John CulbertsonOne question many people ask is “Should I see a psychic?” The reason most end up choosing not to see one is because of the images that Hollywood and popular fiction has painted of them. Gypsies, fortune tellers, scam artists, it’s not hard to understand why so many people resist seeing a psychic.

Is John Culbertson a psychic?

John Culbertson offers insights and advice on most topics. Relationships, career, spirituality, and family are just some of the topics he may touch upon in a session. Sometimes he passes along messages from loved ones who have crossed over to the other side. Sometimes he provides insights from angels or other spiritual beings. There are also times when he provides energy healing. In truth, he has worked with thousands of people from all over world including England, India, the Netherlands, the United States, Norway, Canada, South Korea, Puerto Rico, Jamaica, Australia, South Africa, Ukraine, and others.

Despite this, there are still many people that he comes across who are fearful of or skeptical about what he does professionally. If they don’t believe he is a scam artist they think he’s in legion with the Devil. Neither of which, according to his clients, are true. If you ask him, John will tell you that he believes in one God who manifests itself in various ways and through the many world religions to accommodate the great many people and personalities that are within the world.

“People are allowed to believe what they want to believe. I’m not in the business of telling people what to believe. I’m not in the business of telling people all about doom and gloom. My job involves both helping people to feel better and empowered and providing insights about life which they may not have thought about or which they have thought about and need further validation on. People are in control of their own destiny and honestly, there are many people who don’t need to use my services because they fully understand and known this.”

Most of his clients view him more as a spiritual teacher or shaman as opposed to psychic. As far as he is concerned this is fine. “In fact, I rather prefer being called a spiritual teacher and adviser. The word psychic is so misunderstood in world society. A great many who use this term are in fact all those stereotypes which people have become weary and afraid of.”

John has a full time work schedule. From 10am to sometimes as late as 11pm John works with private clients, writes New Age and self-help books and articles, does PR and marketing, produces a monthly newsletter, keeps his Facebook page updated, and travels teaching and conducting classes and workshops.

“I keep busy and tend to have little free time. Yet I love what I do and wouldn’t change it for the world.”

John does not come from a family of psychics. He was raised in a strict Roman Catholic family where much of what he does today was considered back in his youth as taboo. Instead, John credits several of his past teachers and mentors for his growth and development as a spiritual being. He states that “I have learned that all people are born psychic and have intuitive abilities. All people have the ability and power to connect personally one on one with God or the Universal Spirit. They don’t need an intermediary if they would just try and trust. I have learned, however, that most people are not really good at learning to trust themselves.”

John has been influenced over the years by Sandy Anastasi, John Maerz, Jason Oliver, Mic McManus, Gerald O’Donnell, Dr. Steve Serr, Ed Hicks, Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Doreen Virtue, Marianne Williamson, Louise Hay, John Edward, Sylvia Browne, and many other New Age personalities.

“I love to learn and I love to read books. Reading, to me, is one of the most important things people can do. It opens up a whole new world and provides new insights which otherwise may have gone unnoticed. Sometimes the things which you read that you don’t agree with are far more important than those which you do agree with. Anytime you challenge what you know and ask questions you are bound to grow and evolve beyond your current state.

John has been a professional in the New Age field for just over 15 years. In that time he has authored three books. Miracle of the Angels is a short story about his encounter with angels when his grandmother was dying from cancer. Improve Your Intuition discusses and teaches people about psychic development. Finally, Psychic Self Defense and Protection is about defending against the negativity in the world and learning to understand how people use energy in both good and bad ways. Psychic Self Defense and Protection’s 3rd edition is due out by Summer of 2015.

Psychic or not, John has a large number of students and clients that he has helped get into the field and expand their own New Age based businesses. He has an equal number of clients who have emotionally, mentally, and spiritually grown and found their life enriched through their connection to him.

To learn more about John visit his website at: www.mysticjohnculbertson.com

Psychic John Culbertson

2nd Interview by After Hours AM – Spirit Communication

On July 24th, 2014, psychic and spiritual teacher John Culbertson returned to After Hours AM to talk again with Joel and Jennifer Sturgis. Here is some more examples of his reading ability, including a special spirit communication session that took place.

After Hours AM 2nd Interviews

Interview by After Hours AM – Psychic John Culbertson

On May 10th, 2014 psychic channel and spiritual teacher John Culbertson was interviewed by Joel and Jennifer Sturgis of After Hours AM. This interview provides a good overview to who John is and the work that he does and also provides a sampling of his reading ability.

After Hours AM 1st Interview

Interview by Funky Mystic Radio on Energy Vampires

On April 30th, 2014, John was interviewed by Funky Mystic Radio’s Keva Larthridge-Mack about Energy Vampires and how to deal with them. The interview is included below and is worth listening to if you want to know more about energy vampires and psychic self defense.

Funky Mystic Radio Energy Vampires Interview

Why Does Life Suck if I Create My Own Reality?

Pure SpiritCan you explain how we create our own reality and destiny? Why does my life suck then? 

The soul is on a constant quest. In old lore this was called the quest for the Holy Grail – a rich metamorphic symbolism used by alchemist to describe the experience of the soul.

The Holy Grail was the mythic chalice that caught the blood of Christ after his side was pierced with a spear while he was hanging upon the cross. It was said that whoever found and drank form the Grail would have Immortality and Power beyond what any human could conceive of.

Supposedly, Hitler was obsessed with the Holy Grail. He missed the point, however. As the Holy Grail is not tangible or real, rather it is an “experience of becoming.”

Alchemy is the process of changing a base material into a superior one. True alchemy is about transformation. About moving from a life of neediness, attachment, despair, unawareness, not knowing, and suffering to a life of eternal love, knowing, awareness, and joy.

We are all called to be alchemist in our lives. We are all called to transform ourselves from one state to another. In this act of transformation comes the creation of reality and destiny, as conceived by our soul, and put into action by our soul.

Deepak Chopra explains the process in his book The Way of the Wizard. I’ll summarize here the understanding I have come to gain of it, with the understanding that this is only one belief system and it’s not one anyone is obligated to live by.

So here is the path of the soul in our world. Here are the stages and states of the soul.

Birth - InnocenceBirth – Born into Innocence

When we are born we are born into innocence. We have come from the world of pure spirit into the material world of matter. We are not born evil or bad. We are not born with sin. We are simply born into the physical shell which our parents created for us. We, in essence, have come from a point of timelessness into a point of limitation. This is the point with which we all come and the point with which we all must eventually seek to overcome.

Babies, early in their young life, look at the world from a perspective of awe. Everything they see is bigger then they. Everything is almost magical.

A person can not remain innocent forever. Emotions soon begin to complicate the baby’s world. Fear, anger, sadness, despair, is all experienced. Innocence is thus lost. The state of pure spirit, or that from which they came from, is forgotten.

It is only in pure spirit, however, that one can return to innocence. It is only in pure spirit that one can feel completeness. We will discuss this more later.

 Ego

Soon the Ego is born. The Ego is the part of the self that learns to separate things. It learns to separate I from you and this from that. It learns to separate light from dark and good from evil. It is also the Ego which causes humans to desire power and control. Humans desire these things in order to try to compensate for the loss of innocence. They desire power and control to feel safe, secure, happy, etc.

At this stage people look outward to validate themselves. New fears develop – especially the fear of abandonment and the need for approval.

As long as a person seeks power and control they will always worry about being alone and not accepted. They will always feel, on some level, incomplete.

The Achiever The Achiever

A new tendency develops in most of us at this time. We seek to achieve. We seek to have more. We are never satisfied with what we do have, rather we always long for something better. It is the Ego which drives this and the spirit tries to find completion in material things – most notably money and titles or prestige. In essence, however, people move further away from pure spirit.

As it continues to move away from spirit and as the ego continues to grow stronger a person typically becomes very unhappy. After all, no matter what is achieved, it is never enough. Even worse, there is the illusion that if something isn’t achieved we aren’t important enough, good enough, loved enough, or valued enough.

Depression and Anxiety are common traits people experience at this point.

The GiverThe Giver

The Ego eventually realizes that achieving isn’t what results in happiness. If it’s not in achieving, it thinks, it must be in giving! So, people start to give. They give to charity. They give to friends. They give items, money, and even the self. In doing so, giving brings joy, happiness, and apparent peace.

In the Achieving stage people were afraid of loss and having something taken from them. In the Giving stage people loose without worry or fear. Loss still happens, but it somehow feels different to the individual. People now call it giving or sharing instead of losing.

There is a problem, however. Nobody can give of themselves and their possessions forever. Nobody can ever make everybody happy. You see, at this stage we base happiness on if we can make or help someone else be happy. If so, we too feel happy. If not, we feel unhappy and frustrated.

The SeekerThe Seeker

When we realize that we can’t make everyone happy and we get tired of trying we enter a new stage; the stage of the Seeker.

At this stage we feel there must be something greater. There must be something better and more important. We feel there must be a solution to everything somewhere.

Here is where most spiritual people find themselves. They meditate. They pray. They seek mystical experiences. All of these things are done in effort to discover that which is greater. There is now an understanding that the material world can never fully satisfy the spirit.

Here a powerful spiritual opening eventually takes place. When it does we come to the realization that if one sees themselves as unworthy, they always will be. If one sees themselves as poor, they always will be. If one sees themselves as unhappy, they always will be. If one regrets the past, they always will stay connected to it. We understand that nobody truly has any answers for us, except the ones we discover for ourselves – the ones that are directly revealed to us.

This opening happens at different times in the Seekers experience. For some it comes early, for others it must be bluntly pointed out to them. When this realization is fully integrated into the consciousness, that is fully understood,  a few things beings to happen.

A spiritually awakened person starts to give without expecting in return. They master compassion – but don’t loose themselves in the world of other people’s pains and sufferings.

They also begin to fully trust their intuition and understand only they can hear the answers that God/The Universal Spirit/Goddess has for them. At first, this voice is very quiet and hard to make out. It’s over ridden by the voices of the Ego. The Ego seeks to destroy happiness. It reprimands us, scolds us, even tries to make us believed that the world is punishing us. The inner voice, however, seeks to be in a state of pure happiness and does not criticize. It guides us without harshness and without resorting to harmful acts to others or ourselves.

The SeekerThe spiritually awakened also will not fear solitude or being alone – for these are just new opportunities to connect with and hear the Universal Spirit. Additionally, they will not seek approval; rather understand that the only one that must approve of anything is the self. As such, there is no longer a need for comparison.

Finally, and most importantly, they realize good and evil are the same. For those not awakened this can seem blasphemies and can be hard to conceive and we should never force ourselves to reconcile this idea – for to be awakened spiritually it must come naturally and through self exploration and experience. The spiritually awakened, however, understands pure spirit is neither good nor evil. It simply is. In the human world people can choose to express pure spirit in harmful or constructive ways. Yet the idea of what is right or wrong in the human world entirely depends upon the point of perception.

Thus, the boyfriend that broke your heart or the mother that abandoned you as a child – from their perspective they did no wrong. From their perspective, they did only what they believed they had to do. The customer that cursed you and the thief that stole your goods, again, they did what they believed to be right. If you were them, you likely would have chosen the same paths they chose.

That’s not to say that in the human world there are not laws, rules, etiquette, and so forth that society should abide by – there certainly are, but any grudges we hold, any pain we choose to feel, it is our own doing to do so and it is inspired by the Ego.

The SeerThe Seer

From here the soul enters yet another state; the state of the seer.

Seeking in and of itself does not bring fulfillment. Fulfillment comes when the seeker becomes the seer. We now understand. We now comprehend. We don’t just understand and comprehend, however, we live. We choose to live in the physical world from the perspective of the spirit/soul.

We understand that we can travel between these states anytime we want. If today we want to be in Ego, we can. If tomorrow the Achiever, that is allowed. If a month from now we wish to be the Seeker, we can do that too. We can move from state to state, but we can never no longer see. We still understand what is happening, even if we choose to allow ourselves to be in a certain state.

We also understand that we can travel with another in any of the states they choose to be in. Would I tell the same thing to someone who is in the state of the seeker as I would someone in the state of Ego? Would I speak to one in the state of innocence like I would one who was walking the state of the seer? Would I ask the Giver the same thing I’d ask the Seeker? Of course not. You meet people where they are. You can lead them to another state, show the way, but they must choose to walk their on their own accord.

At this state we also understand that there is yet another higher reality. A reality we can never, as humans, fully understand. A cosmic order and cosmic consciousness we belong to.

Yet, at the same time, we live in a world where we have free will and still don’t fully control. We come to understand that just like good and evil, free will and destiny are the same energy. Despite this, we are okay with it, for we understand that it is all good and with purpose from the Divine’s perspective.

When fully integrated into this state we feel content. We don’t seek happiness, because we realize we are already happy.

Likewise, we allow others to be who they choose to be and love them just the same. We may not always like what they choose to do or how they choose to behave, but we understand that what we like or don’t like is a matter of Ego and has nothing to do with their personal path.

SpiritSpirit

The finale state is the state of pure spirit. It is that state from which we originally came. Here we know God, and yet realize that the journey has truly just begun. Here we now see everything connected at the spirit level. We no longer choose to live in the physical world from a spiritual perspective – rather the physical and spiritual just blend together as one.

There is no longer a separation of mind and body or life and death. They are all the same. Though Deepak doesn’t talk about it, here is the world many Shamans, Gurus, and Spiritual Teachers reside in. There is no Ego here. It is beautiful, it is awe inspiring, and it is truly fulfilling in and of itself.

 Notes

  • A person will not normally skip states/stages. They will typically experience them in order.
  • A person, as was mentioned, may choose to go back to earlier states and in a sense the state of Spirit is very much the same as the state of Innocence.
  • Understanding and experiencing/living a state are not the same thing.
  • Ego is a very powerful force. It CAN be good at certain times in our human history, but it CAN also be quite destructive if we allow it to be.
  • No given state is any better or worse than any other state. No given state is more powerful or higher. They all exist for a reason and they all have purpose. If you find yourself in the state of the achiever, continue to work to be the best achiever you can be. If you find yourself in the state of the giver – keep being the best giver you can until you’re ready to seek. If you are in the state of the seeker, explore and experiment with various systems of spiritual knowledge. The point is, don’t feel that any one is more right or wrong than another. Rather, work to be involved in that state/stage the best you can.

Back to the Original Questions

So how do we create reality?

Ultimately, it is created by what we choose to believe and how we integrated the material/physical world into our belief system.

We could talk about the Law of Attraction and we could talk about Creative Manifestation and both of those have a place in reality creation – but ultimately, reality is governed by thought and belief. Our thoughts, each others thoughts, and even the Divine’s thoughts all work to create reality in some aspect. When two realities come into contact with each other – a common reality – what we call ordinary reality or the “real” world will develop.

The term “real” here is misleading though. For that common reality is no less or more real than any other we experience. How we choose to experience and ultimately the meaning we choose to give to the experience is far more important than the experiences in and of themselves. This, the how, is determined largely by the soul state we have obtained by the time of the experience.

Likewise, people have a tendency to not consider the spiritual “real.” When they meditate or pray or go to a spiritual class or workshop, or even go on a retreat or vacation, they leave saying to themselves “Well that was nice, but it’s back to reality now.” How destructive this is! Reality is what is real to an individual in any given moment. While realities may be different, one should not be seen as better than another or an escapist from another.

As for why does life suck for some people?

If you’ve been keeping up I do not need to explain this. Life never truly sucks. All good and bad are the same energy interpreted in different ways. All good and bad in our lives have reason and purpose even if we can’t understand it in that given moment. Even if someone we care about dies, at the highest level there is an understanding that they didn’t die, but just transformed states of being. This doesn’t necessarily take away the human response of pain. We will all feel pain. Pain will never stop. It’s just part of the human experience. As the old saying goes pain is a given, suffering is optional. The trick is not to keep reliving the same pain over and over again – this is when pain becomes suffering.

What we may at first believe to be the worst thing to ever happen to us could, later in retrospect, be the most important life changing miracle we could have ever been granted and participated in.

Closing Thoughts

As a closing, let me use an example from my own life.

My mother walked out on me when I was a young child. At the time I thought it was the worst thing in the world. I was filled with guilt, fear, anger, and sadness. How could a mother leave her child with an elderly woman (my great-grandmother) who was so strict and mean? How could she give up her own flesh and blood? Why didn’t she love me?

I cried about this for years. I suffered with this for years. I attended many therapy sessions to try and understand how a person’s own mother could do this. I never got any real answers.

Many years later, in the seeker stage, I came to understand that my Mother left me because she was involved in an abusive relationship and that was the only way to save me from the abuse which she herself endured. It was because she left me I was allowed to grow up in a middle class family instead of a family of poverty. It was because she walked out that I was able to attended a Catholic school and have the friends that I would have and the education I would have. Had she never walked out, my life would have been very different. Again, from the perspective of spirit, that different would not have been bad or worse – but it would have been different.

Me, Grandfather, and Mom - Wedding DayNow I look at my mother not from a perspective of betrayal – not from a place of hurt and pain – but from a loving adoration. That one act, which years ago I had condemned and thought was the end of my world – that one act was done from her perspective out of a place of total love and hope. Hope I would have a better life and that I would be a better person. I can proudly say, that as she comes closer and closer to her time of transition from the physical to the spiritual, that her hopes were not only realized, but her gift of love given at that moment and time in my life was the catalyst for all that is today.

She walked around for years with this feeling of shame that she had done something wrong. Worried I’d never forgive her. I never knew this. In fact, neither of us, in our states of Ego, could see the bigger picture. We could not possibly have understood the purpose everything was serving.

So try not to look at events when they occur from the eyes of destruction. See them for what they are – catalysts that can, if you allow them, transform your life far beyond what it could have been otherwise.

You too can step into the state of the seer, even the state of pure spirit and you can learn to travel the states of the soul and meet people where they are. It’s not done through intellect, however. It is done through life experience itself and practice. It is done by living and interacting with life at all levels.

Can You Do the Lesser Banishing Ritual Anywhere Anytime?

For December’s question of the month we answer the question can you do the Lesser Banishing Ritual anywhere anytime?

The quick answer is yes. This is especially true once you have mastered the ritual and know it inside and out by heart. Even so, if you are a beginner, it is highly recommended that you perform the LBRP in the physical world – at least until you know it, the words, and visualizations that go along with it by heart.

The Power of Ritual Comes from the Will – Not the Tools

Many people think that in order to perform a ritual one must have all the tools, and that they must wait for a specific day or moon, and so forth. This is simply not true. The tools you use only serve to direct energy. They in and of themselves do not create or make anything happen. The energy is already present both in our physical world and in the non physical world. When we do a ritual or magic spell we collect and direct that energy – but we do not typically create new energy.

It’s the inner will of the one performing the ritual which both creates and allows things to happen. When one uses their inner will to direct energy to manifest any type of result – this is technically what is called magick.

We spell magick in this case with a “k” instead of just a “c” to differentiate between stage magic and sleight of hand or illusions and real world magick or the use of the will to manifest and/or create results.

Once a person is proficient in the workings of the Lesser Ritual of the Pentagram, they can simply do it in their mind no matter where they are. They don’t have to perform it in the physical world for it to be effective. Performing in on the mental plane will be equally as effective as performing it in the physical and material world.

Why This is True

There is an old hermetic law that essentially says “As above, so below.” The implications of this are many. For our purposes, in today’s discussion, it’s important to understand that what you do on one plane of existence equally impacts and effects the other planes of existence.

Thus, if you can do a ritual mentally with the correct emotions and spiritual focus, it will act as though it has occurred within the physical realm even without doing anything in the physical realm.

This is the reason thought forms are so dangerous. When we think negative thoughts, be it about another person or ourselves, we are throwing that energy around and that energy is impacting others. This is true regardless of if we consciously are trying to do it or not.

This is one reason magic practitioners would do well to practice some form of consistent meditation. To keep the mind clear and calm and the emotions under control.

The Dangers of Mental Rituals

Where people get into trouble is when they don’t really know a ritual well enough to be able to clearly see themselves and all the visualizations that go along with it. They also get themselves into trouble by loosing concentration and focus or by trying to perform a ritual while emotionally vulnerable or unstable. These are all magikcal no-no’s.

A magick ritual or spell should never be attempted when in a highly unstable emotional state. The ungrounded emotions can cause effects that one may not find desirable.

Likewise, if the mind is cloudy it is also not a great idea to work with magick. Again, doing so may at best cause the work to fail or be incomplete and at worse it may cause undesirable consequences.

The reason students are encouraged to practice a ritual on the physical plane with all the ritual tools is so they can both truly learn the ritual, and also so that the ritual tools can help them to keep their focus and better direct the energies that they are working with.

A person can, does, and will eventually reach a level of proficiency where the physical world tools are not needed nor required to be able to successfully work with a ritual.

A Special Note for the Religious Minded

Though it is unlikely that many religious minded folks have read this far into this article, I would still like to close with some food for thought. For the religious among us, the concept we are talking about here is a lot like praying and similar considerations should be kept in mind.

Do you have to be in a Church or say a prayer out loud for it to be effective? No, of course not. It’s the intention that is put behind the prayer that makes the difference. However, some people certainly feel more comfortable and better aligned doing it in a Church or saying it out loud. Just as some people are going to feel better doing a magick based ritual in the physical world and saying its words out loud.

Should you only pray when you are upset? No, absolutely not. In fact, you will get a great deal more out of the praying experience if you make prayer an integral part of your daily life and not something you turn to just in moments of pain, unrest, and sadness. Likewise, those who practice magick will find they have better results when they integrate their practices into their daily life as opposed to just running to it when they feel they need it.

You will also find prayer having a more profound impact upon your life when it is used in moments of stillness and clarity. Likewise for the magick practitioner.

Magick is prayer and prayer is magick. They are one in the same. Though many will argue this point, and have historically for a long time, they are in essence the same energy as practiced by different religions/belief systems.

A New Moon Ritual for Manifestation

The new moon is a great time to do manifestation magick. What follows is a new moon ritual that can be done by most anyone. Though there are certainly pagan tones to the ritual, the open minded will find that it’s easy enough to change certain words to make it work for their own tradition.

Setup or What You Need

Table or altar in the center where the circle will be cast.

On the table is:

  • A vessel to burn paper in. This can be a cauldron or anything else that will safely hold burning incense and paper.
  • A green and red candle
  • Some Ylang/Ylang incense. If not available it may be omitted.
  • A bowl of kosher or sea salt.
  • A lighter/matches.
  • Paper and pen.
  • Sage or Frankincense

At each directional point is a purple candle and a tool to light it with. (Matches, lighter, etc.) as well as a candle snuffer.

Note: White candles may be used as a substitute for any other color candle, though the ritual is designed to be most effective with the color candles mentioned.

 

Ritual for Manifestation on the New Moon

Take the time to make sure the space where the ritual is to be performed is appropriately cleaned and is going to be safe.

Using Frankincense or Sage, clear the ritual area. As it is cleared say

YOU: Allow the white light of love and divine protection to clear and purify this space to make it sacred. Allow no outside negative influences to interfere. Allow only good to come into this space.

Carry kosher or sea sat clockwise around the circle and sprinkle it on the ground. You should complete three circles. As you do so, visualize first a flame around the circle, second a bubble encapsulating the circle, and third a white light coming down into the circle.

Facing east, light the candle. As the candle is light say:

YOU: Hail to the element of Air. I bid you welcome to my sacred circle. May you help in clarity of thought and then carry those thoughts into the world.

Turn South. Light the candle. As the candle is light say:

YOU: Hail to the element of Fire. I bid you welcome to my sacred circle. May your flame purify my thoughts so they work to create only good in my life.

Turn West. Light the candle. As the candle is light say:

YOU: Hail to the element of water. I bid you welcome to my sacred circle. May your presence add energy to the other directions where additional energy and nourishment is needed.

Turn North. Light the candle. As the candle is light say:

YOU: Hail to the element of earth. I bid you welcome to my sacred circle. May you purify and stabilize my emotions so they are solid in the work I do.

You should now move to the center of the circle and light the Red and Green Candles on the altar.

Now, look above.

YOU: To the Sky energy above that is known by many names. I ask that you be present to watch over and lend power to my work here.

Look down toward earth or reach down and touch the earth.

YOU: To Mother Earth who allows me to walk upon her soil and who supports every aspect of this life. I ask you to join forces with the Sky to watch over and lend power to my work here.

Turn focus back to the center.

YOU: May the Divine join me in this circle and bless this sacred work I do.

Allow a brief few moments of silence for the integration of energy. Then say.

YOU: Tonight, the night of the new moon, I gather in this circle to ask the blessing of the Divine to be upon me and the work I do.

YOU: This is a time of manifestation and creation. As such, I’m going to write upon paper three things I desire to manifest in the name of good, love, and harm to none. First: Something I desire for someone else. Second: Something I desire for the world. Third: Something I desire for myself.

Complete the task of writing these things down on paper.

After you’ve finished light the ylang/ylang incense and walk clockwise around the table with it before dropping it into the burning vessel. Return to center.

Approach the table and light the paper from the green candle then pass it through the flame of the red candle. You will then drop it into the burning vessel. As it burns and the smoke releases the intentions to be birthed into the world, chant and clap or simply say and repeat – “OM – So It Be.” Do this until the paper has burned out.

Once this task is finished take a few more moments in silence to allow for reflection on what has just occurred. You may want to do an appropriate meditation at this time as well. When finished say:

YOU: I am now ready to close this circle.

Close your eyes. Visualize in the circle a brilliant light shining all around. Gather this light and places it in the burning vessel. Take a deep breath in and exhale out sharply as you shoot the light and any remaining intentions within the burning vessel out and into the universe.

YOU: Now, before I return to my daily life, I give thanks to the Divine who make all things possible. Blessings to you oh Divine Energy. I bid you farewell for now but look forward to your return.

Face North. Snuff out the candle.

YOU: Blessings to you element of earth – who grounded and stabilized me. I bid you farewell for now but look forward to your return.

Face West. Snuff out the candle.

YOU: Blessings to you element of water – who lent your nourishment throughout this circle. I bid you farewell for now but look forward to your return.

Face South. Snuff out the candle.

YOU: Blessings to you element of fire – who purified my thoughts. I bid you farewell for now but look forward to your return.

Face East. Snuff out the candle.

YOU: Blessings to you element of air – who gave form and carried my thoughts for me into the real world. I bid you farewell for now but look forward to your return.

Walking counter clockwise around the circle, use your fingers to cut the circle. This is done three times. Once finished say:

YOU: It is complete. I go in peace, love, and joy knowing my intentions have been heard.

5 Ways the Mind Controls Our Happiness

There are actually more than 5 ways the mind controls our happiness. We will be only be looking at five in this article. To understand these mechanisms you first have to understand that human beings essentially have two parts to themselves. The true self and the egoic self. The rest of this article will help educate you on both parts and explain when and why the ego needs to be trained.

The True Self

The true self is the part of people that is naturally happy and content with life. It’s the natural state for all people in the world. Happy, content, loving. A person need not do anything special for the true self to have these feelings as the are already present.

The true self is also the part of the self that knows what an individual’s soul most needs to grow and expand. When a person is connected to their true self life feels magical. It just flows. Most people have times when they get a glimpse of what it is liked to be fully connected to the true self without interference from the ego. If you’ve ever had a day where everything seemed to fall into place and it felt just amazing – this was a day where you were tuned into your true self.

The Egoic Self

The ego as we talk about it in this article has nothing to do with the ego or superego of psychology and should not be confused as being the same thing. For our purposes, the ego is purely connected to spirituality.

This is the part of the self that constantly looks for ways to take happiness, love, and contentment away from the true self. It does this because, from its perspective, it believes it is trying to help improve life. What often happens, however, is most people fall into the trap of letting the ego override the true self. They become obsessed with egoic thinking and in so doing actually end up loosing and/or forgetting about the joy, happiness, contentment, and love which normally is already present in life.

5 Popular Ways the Egoic Mind Attacks

1. The Need for Perfection

Perfection can’t and doesn’t really exist in the physical world. The egoic mind doesn’t care about that. It tries to make many people believe that things have to be perfect and with this comes the idea that if things aren’t perfect, then life is ruined or they aren’t good or valuable people.

Perfectionism is one of the most horrible diseases a person can have. While it can serve the purpose of helping one to work toward being the best they can be, a person almost always ends up feeling like they can’t live up to perfection. Still, some will keep trying and trying…. trying to be something they aren’t and were never meant to be.

By letting go of the need to be perfect we release guilt and stress that often times accompanies it.

2. Fears and Worries

There are two types of fears. Intrinsic fear that arises in any given moment which triggers the fight or flight response. This is also called or known as healthy fear. It is apart of us geared toward helping to protect ourselves.

There is also false fear. Fear, a mentor once told me, is an acronym for false evidence appearing real. This is the fear that ultimately leads to stress and worry being placed upon the self.

Anytime a fear projects into the future it is subject to examination. While the egoic mind may think that having such fears is healthy, is it really? Most people create fears about the future. Fears in which there is no concrete evidence to indicate that the fear has any real value.

Our beliefs, if controlled by the egoic mind, will many times try to convince us that the worst is happening or is going to happen. Even without any evidence that it is true. By learning to base our beliefs off actual evidence vs perceived evidence we can go a long way in winning this part of the war with the ego.

3. Shoulds

A horrible word that as adults we would do well to work to strike from vocabulary.

As children we need shoulds! It helps to train us in good morals and values. As we become adults, hopefully those morals and values are so engraved in our spirit that we automatically do what is the right thing to do.

There are no shoulds in life. By telling yourself life should be a certain way or people should behave in a certain way all you are doing is creating unhappiness within. We can’t control other people nor can we control life itself. All we can control is ourselves, our own beliefs, and our own actions. Additionally, by telling yourself something should happen you set the risk of the ultimate disappointment, as many times shoulds never transpire in the physical world.

4. What Ifs/What to Do

Our egoic mind is wired to think of worst case scenarios and to make us feel as though we “should” be doing something. Just like by eliminating our shoulds we find more peace and less stress, the same will occur when we stop asking what if and what should I do.

Lets address the what should I do question. Anytime you have to consciously ask yourself what you should do you are already falling into the ego mind trap. The flow of life happens when we just participate in it. This is when the true self can be at its best.

This leads to the next part – What if? As soon as you ponder the idea of just participating in life your ego will attack with a barge of what ifs. What if my life gets worse? What if I look like a fool? What if others make fun of me? What if I do something stupid? What if I loose all my money? What if I never succeed? What if my relationship falls apart?

The problem with what if is that it relates to the evidence factor previously mentioned. There is no evidence that the what if will be true. What if I ask her out and she says no? Then you move on. More importantly, what if you ask her out and she says yes? That can lead to a new relationship! Things won’t always work out in life – but that’s life!!! We shrug our shoulders, pick ourselves up, and move on.

If we do nothing, however, but wonder “What if?” we end up missing out on life entirely. Who really wants to do that?

5. Stories

Another common way our ego attacks is through negative story telling.

In cognitive psychology and therapy people are taught that A plus B = C.

A stands for activating event. This is the actual event and a person’s interpretation of that event.

B is our beliefs about the event. Our beliefs are ever changing and sometimes they are rational and other times irrational.

C is the consequences we experience based on our beliefs about the event.

An example. A breakup would be the activating event. Holding the belief or telling ourselves the story that there are many fish in the sea and better to exit now than later will produce very different consequences from believing and telling ourselves the story that we aren’t worthy of love and our life is over! People choose their beliefs and stories that they tell themselves and they can change them anytime they want.

Whenever you catch yourself telling a negative story about yourself or life – you owe it to your true self to stop and co-author a new story that is more productive and useful to living.

Exceptions to Rules

This is not to say that there are never exceptions. Learning to mediate the battle between the true self and egoic self is not always easy, but it can be highly rewarding and life changing.

Ultimately, most of us have the same broad goals for life. Be happy, be loved, live a good life. What we must realize, and what is hard to realize, is that for many of us these goals have already been accomplished and we just need to enjoy them and be present with them.

That’s not to say we can’t think about or make any plans for the future – just don’t obsess about the future or let it control you in the present moment.

That’s also not to say we should entirely forget the past – the past holds many valuables lessons that are worth reviewing, but it isn’t beneficial to obsess over the past or allow it to control us and our beliefs in the present.

You are encouraged to review this information and discuss it with people that you are closes to.

 

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